Listen to your body. These small changes can warn of disease. Negative attitude towards your body How to treat your body
As you know, a person’s attitude towards his body is directly related to his attitude towards himself: towards his own personality, to how “good” or “bad” a person considers himself to be for this world.
The worse the attitude towards the only reality that can truly be called “one’s own”, the more problems and difficulties a person has with the external world, which lies beyond the boundaries of physicality.
The attitude towards the body is greatly influenced by upbringing - the environment in which a person was born and raised, learned the rules and comprehended the values.
And depending on what “game” the parents and close circle played in relation to the physical form, the child, like a sponge, absorbed their point of view (adding, of course, to it his own life experience and experience of observing reality), as a result of which he was born his own attitude towards the body, both his own and that of others.
If we generalize, bypassing the subtleties and nuances that introduce minor differences, we can identify two main beliefs and, as a consequence, two main strategies in relation to the body. First: “the body is nothing: its desires are insignificant, the main thing is consciousness, intellect, spirit.” And the exact opposite: “the body is everything, the main thing is to pay attention to it and its needs, the rest will wait.”
Both strategies, of course, do not lead to a healthy and fulfilling life, since neither of them contains either love or respect for oneself.
In the first case, a person tries to suppress the natural needs of the body and remove instincts. Which, by the way, he can’t do in everyday life, since the body is a living, feeling organism, a space of energy and flesh, which can only be crushed by doing rather extreme types of yoga in combination with spiritual practice, the purpose of which is to free consciousness from desires of bodily form. But this, firstly, is not at all simple, and, secondly, such a result will require special conditions, which, as we know, do not have for a person living an ordinary city life. There is also no awareness of those internal tasks that lead yogis to follow such a rigid practice. And all that is possible is to bring yourself and your body to exhaustion, using the tools that are “at hand”: diets and fasting, grueling sports training, working without sleep and rest, denying sexual desires and needs. Which ultimately leads to nothing but bodily problems. Which is not at all surprising, since it is impossible and unnecessary to remove what exists, what is meant to be alive and functioning. And even if from childhood an attitude has been internalized about the sinfulness of the body and the superficiality of its needs, which ultimately leads to the intention to “restrain” them, then in adulthood this attitude simply needs to be revised in order not to subsequently have psychological and physical problems.
To solve the problem of denial of corporeality, first of all, it is important to understand what exactly the body with all its needs and wants “threatens” the personality. What's wrong with the fact that it wants to drink, eat, have sex, bask in the sun - why does all of the above lead to a state of anxiety, guilt and/or shame? How does all this affect you as a person - your plans, your self-image, the position you occupy in society?!
After all, the body itself is neutral - it is as much a part of a person as consciousness. So are feelings. He has his own tasks, the main essence of which is to realize through the body all those desires, goals and dreams that each of us has. Without a body, it will all remain suspended in the air without the slightest opportunity to see the light.
A person does not love himself (his body) not because he does not love, but because he was made to understand that he is not good the way he is. That he must grow above the needs and desires of “lower matter.” And in general, this has its advantages: this is how a person learns to work on himself, to recognize and improve himself, but there comes a time when you need to stop and realize that suppressing the body, ashamed of its desires, is a sign of infantility, an immature mind, but nothing not an adult life position. Hiding and being ashamed of your body means not solving the main issue of relating to yourself as a living and sentient being; it’s like being an adult and remaining a small child who shies away from every outside opinion dictating what he should be. The body is the reality closest to us, accessible to change. Everything begins with him in the life of every person. Without building a harmonious relationship with his own physicality, without allowing himself the needs and desires of the body, a person lies like a stone on the road of his own life, having no chance to move, because where is he, so “dirty and vicious,” to live and love in this “pure and correct "world"... Non-acceptance of oneself, modesty, the desire to hide the inconveniences caused by the body - this is a problem that is the responsibility of every person who wants to live a free and fulfilling life to solve!
The other extreme that we tend to go to: the body is everything! With such a conviction, a person is only concerned with the desires and needs of his own physicality. It is instincts that dictate to him: what, how and why to do and not do. If the body “doesn’t want” to go to training, preferring to eat everything that the eyes see on the plate, the person obeys unquestioningly, because it is the Body Itself that gives such signals. Having accepted such a position, a person is ready to follow the needs always and everywhere, no matter what tasks he faces, because it is almost impossible to refuse something that is higher than him. Which, of course, in itself reveals social fears about the life in which one “has” to live and win. Where you need to set goals and achieve them. Where there is a hierarchy and where it is sometimes important to endure your momentary desires in the name of more significant tasks. But if there is a conviction that a person cannot cope with the whole world that is approaching and requires decisions that go far beyond the boundaries of the body and its functioning, he will, against his will, avoid the first and give attention to the second. As a result, external life will suffer, the one without which a person in the prime of life and strength simply cannot survive.
What to do in this case?
Learn to set goals and achieve them - gradually, step by step, increasing the experience of social victories. It is better to start with very simple solutions, which will later lead to more complex and multi-tasking ones. After all, if you remove fears and self-doubt, then any person will do something that is important to him besides the body and its needs. People are designed this way - everything they have: body, consciousness, feelings, life experience, they can use for the benefit of themselves and the world or for harm. Depends on the degree of awareness of this fact and the choice that is made. And if that choice falls solely on caring for the tools (in this case, the body), then it is impossible to be successful in what those tools can make possible, namely, in realizing an active, interesting and vibrant life.
What is a healthy attitude towards the body?
It is about keeping a balance: on the one hand, accepting and understanding that the body has needs that need to be satisfied (from bio-survival to sexual); that the body is the natural expression of a form of life; that without a body our consciousness will be in the clouds, unable to be embodied in any matter; that the body needs to be “fed” and respected, giving it its due, taking care of everything that is included in the bodily structure. On the other hand, do not fall into slavery in relation to your bodily form, do not approach it from below, fearing to once again be denied another sweet bun.
Only by taking into account one thing and not forgetting about the other, we - people, become capable of living the life of a healthy person who can and is ready to recognize himself as a whole: with all that, perhaps, in his distant childhood, he was accused of, for which he was shamed, or vice versa - what they set as an example, such as “if you are beautiful, they will love you,” “if you eat well and eat a lot, you will live a long time,” and other attitudes that have become ingrained in our consciousness and prevent us from living the way we want. And only if this balance is maintained, your self-esteem (external assessment of yourself), self-worth (internal knowledge “I am, and this is great”) and relationship with the outside world will return to normal.
Greetings to all our readers! Many people, especially spiritual people, greatly underestimate the importance and purpose. Attention to your body and its development is just as important as investing in your body, your intellect and the formation of personal qualities.
The essence of the question is this:
- Without a body, without a healthy body, here on Earth the soul is essentially powerless. That is, without a body you cannot develop on Earth and cannot realize your Purpose in society.
- Your body can be a burden for you, a brake, a source of pain, a black hole for dumping vital energy, or it can be a generator and accumulator of energy, a source of joy and pleasure from life, a powerful tool for achieving.
What will you choose: for your body to be a burden and burden for your soul? or so that it helps your soul, helps you in all good endeavors?
Either you are pulling a broken cart through life, and all your strength is spent on this, or you are flying on a spaceship with the breeze and comfort and enjoying the flight. Decide for yourself whether you want your body to be a spaceship or a broken down cart.
Let's formulate useful questions that need to be answered: What does it take for your body to strengthen you, for your body to give energy and not take all your strength? What is needed so that you can enjoy life, and not suffer from body pain and swear at it?
First What you need, and this is really very important, is to form a positive attitude towards your body. Understand that it plays a very important role for your life and for the Soul. Then, positive creative energy will flow into your own body.
Second, develop your body - pump it up physically and energetically with special simple exercises, so that it is energetic, so that there are no stagnation phenomena in it, so that it is cleansed, “blooms and smells.”
How important is it to perceive your body, and how should you treat it?
But first, let’s look at how not to, how to treat your body incorrectly:
The body is a burden, a cage for the soul, a source of problems, suffering and pain, etc. When a person despises his body, he does not accept it. If there is no positive attitude, a person will reject his body. A negative attitude is the development by consciousness of a negative, i.e. dark destructive energy that will fill the body. In this case, of course it will hurt and collapse.
I think everyone is familiar with the remnants of religious dogma – “The body is sinful”, “the body is the source of vice, temptation and evil”, etc. And if the body is initially sinful, if it is a carrier, then it turns out that it is a source of evil?! And if the body is a source of evil, if it is inherently vicious, the question arises, how can one treat it positively? On the contrary, it means you need to get rid of it quickly... This is how non-acceptance and contempt for your body is formed. By trying to reject his body, a person throws off, relieves himself of responsibility for it, and therefore loses the opportunity to develop and change it. So, denying his body, not accepting it, a person loses power over it, giving it to power, no matter how incredible it may sound.
There are other misconceptions, which will be discussed in subsequent lessons.
How you should and how to treat your body correctly, let us debunk the above misconceptions and dogmas:
Let's look at the body from a spiritual and esoteric point of view. Few sources, teachings, or religions explain in detail why the body is needed in general. Why is the Soul placed in the body? Why do you need a body? There are many reasons, let’s look at the main ones:
- It is thanks to the body (hard shell) that the subtle divine Soul can accumulate around itself hundreds of times more energy than without a physical body. And the accumulation of a large amount of energy allows the Soul to develop hundreds of times faster than in the subtle energy world.
- Life in the body helps the Soul gain a special and very important experience, and master unique abilities: managing material energies, transforming matter, the ability to create in the material world, and much more. Without a body, the Soul cannot reveal such powers within itself. The body is the connecting link for the Soul between the energetic and material world.
In essence, the task set so that the Soul fully reveals itself through the body and realizes itself in the material world, achieves mastery in this. This is success and happiness, and a lot of good Deeds, with great pleasure and love for Life itself. This feeling of freedom and joy is a sea of positivity and gratitude, and not the desire to quickly get rid of the body and life, not accepting and hating it. This is just running away from life, unwillingness to accept life itself, unwillingness to learn to enjoy life and love it.
Note for spiritual people: non-acceptance of your body and life in it is non-acceptance of the Will of God!
Let's draw conclusions:
If a person has accumulated a negative attitude towards his own body, towards himself, his Soul cannot be happy living on earth, and will not be able to realize itself fully, will not be able to open up and reveal its potential. Without positive body acceptance, this is unrealistic!
You can realize yourself in life and be fully happy only in the harmony of Soul and Body, with an open positive attitude towards both the Soul and the body.
It is also probably worth adding that for the Higher Powers and for the Soul, the human body is a very great value, and when a person has a negative attitude towards it, irresponsibly destroys it with bad habits and his own hatred of it, they will not pat him on the head for this, on the contrary, such a person digs a hole for himself, accumulating karmic punishments for destroying the value given to him from Above.
Key decisions and positive body attitudes to make:
- The body for me is a Temple, the Abode of the Soul, it must be pure, strong, and perfect for the Soul to feel good in it.
- The body for me is a source of strength and joy, a tool for the development of the Soul and Personality, for understanding this world, for creating and enjoying life.
- My body was given to me by the Creator, through my parents as guides, and it has great value, both for the Sun and for me, so I am grateful for my body.
- I value and love my body, I wish it development, purification, Goodness, health, a lot of energy and strength, because it is part of me, my personality, and my Soul really needs it for development, for me - for happiness and achieving what I want.
Debunking religious dogmas about the sinfulness of the body:
Is it possible to blame your body for being unclean, for being sinful, for being the source of weaknesses, temptations, vices, animal instincts such as lust or bloodthirstiness?
Or are the reasons for weakness and sinfulness not in the body at all? Why does one person live a worthy life, is happy in his body, does a lot of Good and does not dive into vice, while another, with the same body, wallows in bad habits, vices, and is a slave to animal instincts? Moreover, the bodies of the first and second are identical!
The point is not at all in the body itself and its sinfulness, but in the weakness of the Spirit itself, in the instability of consciousness, in the weakness of the person himself. But the body has nothing to do with it, you don’t need to “blame” all your mistakes and sins on it. The body simply reveals the weaknesses of the personality, the vulnerabilities in the Soul. Therefore, you should not blame him, but thank him.
It is clear that sometimes you want to fall asleep right at work, in the midst of the day. Or, coming home, fall into the arms of Morpheus at exactly 22:00.
But who would allow you to take a nap while sitting in an office chair? Who will let you sleep peacefully until midnight? While you prepare dinner for the whole family in the evening, put the children to bed... And then you just want to lie quietly and read the news. And find a new recipe for profiteroles. ABOUT! Another meme with Zhdun, I’ll send it to my friend!
The brain simply cannot stop, consuming more and more exciting information, which in turn makes it difficult to calm down and fall asleep.
Maintaining a sleep schedule is the most basic and simple way to show care and respect for your body. After all, during sleep, healthy nerve cells are created, new information is sorted, and the body and brain receive a well-deserved rest. If you have the strength, you have the opportunity to work, relax, communicate - in a word, live a full life.
Sign 2: eat on time and well
The second most obvious sign of caring for your body is feeding it on time. Obvious, but not likely. Because it’s a pity to spend time eating when there’s so much to do! A rush at work, a one-year-old baby at home, renovations or a summer house during the period of the codling moth invasion... In time pressure you won’t remember whether you ate at all today. Well, there seemed to be some snacks.
And then it turns out: you don’t really eat, and your body resentfully swells with extra pounds. How can you enjoy life here?
Remember how, as a child, my mother called me to the table and carefully watched that everything was eaten, saying: “For mom, for dad!” Try to give up “adult toys” - tablets and smartphones, and concentrate on food.
The amount of food is recorded visually, the fact of saturation is recorded logically. Mindful eating helps you avoid overeating. The body will literally feel better: it will accumulate less in reserve and get tired, digesting a bunch of not entirely healthy and tasty food.
Sign 3: Get used to your reflection
We are educated enough not to say nasty things to others about their appearance. And even if we see flaws, we will choose an encouraging phrase as a greeting: “Nice dress!” or “Wow, the years are getting to you!”
Surprisingly, we do not show such respect to ourselves. At best, we try not to look in the mirror again. At worst, we mentally comment: “It wouldn’t hurt you to lose 5 kilos!”
Loving yourself is not easy. And if you don’t want to smile at your reflection, then at least just look at yourself in the mirror more often and make sure that for every critical remark about your appearance there are at least two compliments.
Let the sad “I have cellulite” brighten up the pleasant “but my legs are long and my waist is thin.” Gradually you will get used to noticing your strengths. And respect is their recognition.
Sign 4: Dress for the weather
It’s always nice to catch the admiring glances of men. But uncomfortable, albeit spectacular, shoes, excessive exposure under the scorching rays of the sun and other similar feats in the name of beauty are detrimental to health. Alas, none of us have another young, strong body in stock. Then what you have is worth saving.
Thankfully, fashion has finally become more human. Fashion designers create not only beautiful, but also functional clothes and shoes. Now it protects from ultraviolet radiation, wind and rain, removes excess moisture and does many other useful things.
Sign 5: Don't turn yourself into a universal soldier
In principle, if you follow the previous four points, then you are already quite respectful of your body and appearance.
But self-care involves more than just meeting basic needs. Respect means that you pamper yourself regularly.
Of course, it’s great when you are so resilient and can walk 1.5 kilometers from a stop in the rain and snow, dragging a couple of bags of groceries. That you can work sometimes without days off. Do you consider it philistine to buy a new tea set and replace the furniture at home that has long gone out of fashion?
But still, it is more pleasant for both soul and body when you allow yourself to be surrounded by beauty. Since childhood, many of us have been told: “It is honorable to be content with little.” And this rule does not cease to guide us, even when we earn enough.
Having stopped “tempering” your body with artificial difficulties, you can suddenly discover that life is not as harsh as it seems, and comfort is quite affordable. That a taxi from the metro to home costs a penny, and a new kitchen set, chosen with love, will delight you much longer than its expiration date.
Sign 6: find a compromise with aesthetic medicine
Today you can change your appearance for the better not only through clothing, but also through medicine and cosmetology. Erase wrinkles, lift the corners of your lips, make your eyelashes fluffy and your hair - long... We dreamed about this so much, and now it has come true! Everything is allowed!
The main thing is not to get carried away by reshaping your unique face into some fashionable average ideal. It is at this moment that respect for one’s own appearance ends.
It's one thing to keep yourself in great shape with the help of new products in the beauty industry. Completely different - try to become someone else. If the elimination of one “defect” entails a second and third intervention, but there is no happiness, only love will help. Of course, to yourself.
But it’s better to talk about this not with a cosmetologist, but with a psychologist.
Hello dear readers!
In this episode I want to talk to you about your relationship with your body. This is a very broad topic, but today I want to touch on one specific aspect of it.
Dissatisfaction with your body. Every woman or man, one way or another, faces unpleasant feelings towards their appearance. And as you and I understand, satisfaction with your body is the most important component of self-worth.
Emotions associated with not accepting your body, such as: anxiety, disgust, despair, anger, envy, shame or embarrassment , arise unexpectedly in different situations for different people.
Emotions are motivations for various kinds of actions. Let's imagine what actions can be taken when a person experiences one of the emotions listed above in relation to his body (and this means to the most important part of himself)?
The body can be hidden, the body can be disguised, the body can be destroyed, the body can be devalued and criticized, and the body can be constantly brought into line with some ideal, etc. But will this bring a person happiness and self-satisfaction? I think no.
In this episode, I want to invite you to start observing those situations that strengthen and aggravate your unpleasant feelings towards your body. Perhaps many of you can identify groups of situations in which you begin to experience negativity towards your body, for example:
Sexual or intimate relationships with the opposite sex.
Public performance
Appearance comparison situations (other people, media)
Criticisms about the body
Situations related to clothing, cosmetics and other attributes of beauty.
Situations related to food and diets
Other
Having identified situations where your body will come under fire from negativity, you can try to change your behavior strategy. You are most likely used to being led by your emotions at such moments and taking the actions that are destructive to your self-esteem, which I described above.
I offer you a fundamentally different method. Start to very carefully analyze the negativity that is directed at the body, consider its real origins, and then take actions that are unusual in such situations. Become skeptical analysts, persistently and meticulously check every thought that comes to you in situations where negativity towards the body is exacerbated.
Example 1:
You are about to make a public speech. About a week before the event, you begin to suffer from attacks of fear due to the following thoughts: “I won’t even be able to open my mouth,” “I will be clumsy like a cow,” “I will look very ridiculous,” “People will look at they’ll think of me: Why is she such a fearful person, she decided to perform here”..... When the “terrible” date approaches, you are already so exhausted that all your predictions come true.
Usually you are full of these thoughts, and the whole coming week turns into a living hell, with short breaks for sleep... well, if you manage to immerse yourself in some task so much that you forget about what’s coming.
New way of doing things. You notice that all your “horror stories” sound in the future tense and begin to ask yourself questions: “Why on earth am I thinking about something that has not happened yet?”, “Who have I heard such remarks addressed to me from before?”
As a result:
A) You will at least live another calm week - thanks to the fact that you will forbid yourself to think about your catastrophic failure.
B) You will perform well and feel good - thanks to the fact that you remember that one of your parents, teachers or significant loved ones once doubted you. But that was a long time ago... and now you have grown up and are able to present yourself with dignity.
Example 2:
You broke up with a man or woman with whom you had a love relationship (or you were unable to achieve reciprocity from the object of your love). Your head is full of thoughts: “I’m not attractive enough”, “My body is not sexy, I can’t be attracted to”, “My body can’t be loved”...
Usually you are overwhelmed by a feeling of insignificance bordering on despair. You may even have suicidal thoughts and a desire for complete isolation from people (especially the opposite sex).
New way of doing things. Ask yourself - “How is it that because of failure with one person you are putting an end to your ability to be attractive?” The truth is that this relationship failed, but the complete lie is that your body is to blame! People do not always meet reciprocity in relationships, but this cannot mean that they are “defective”; it just means that finding your soul mate is not an easy task.
Think about the role of the body that was welcomed (or denied) in your family of origin. How did your parents feel about their bodies, and how did they feel about your body—especially in aspects related to attractiveness and sexuality?
As a result:
A) By sticking together your own thoughts according to the scheme: “The truth is..., the untruth is...”, you can get rid of catastrophic conclusions in which truth and fiction are glued together. Feelings of despair and insignificance arise, as a rule, precisely in response to such conclusions. And if you can separate fact from fiction, you will only respond to the truth. Do you agree that it is much easier to feel sadness about a loss (failure) in a relationship than to also feel your insignificance?
B) By analyzing the attitude towards the body in the family, perhaps you can draw some parallels between how your parents treated the body and how you treat it. This gives you the choice to accept your parents' model or nurture your own vision of your body.
Please note that finding, adopting new ways of thinking and being skeptical of your own thoughts is not an easy task. This most often requires psychological help, for which you can turn to specialists of our Consultation.
Best regards, Maria Vladimirova
The less we know how to live our feelings as they arise, to direct our negative emotions - fear, anger, resentment - to the one who causes them - the more such unfinished situations and actions accumulate in the body... Typically in the form of diseases... Often - in the form excess fat... And our “getting rid of excess weight” often (in the unconscious) also carries the idea of dumping accumulated unfinished negativity.
But this can only be achieved by mechanical methods - reducing nutrition, exhausting the body with excessive training, etc. - this is to drive our body - and our psyche - into even greater stress... There is a healthier and gentler method - together with the program for improving bodily forms, begin to master the program of mental healing. Try “here and now” to end traumatic situations, the traces of which disfigure our harmony and beauty. This is, of course, work. Sometimes long... But pleasing with its results.
The path to yourself can begin with the recognition that my body is me! I love my body. I respect my body's needs. I am grateful to my body for its honest work. If I want my body to change, I respectfully ask it to do so. I reward my body every time it listens to me. I understand and sympathize with his resistance. The resistances of my body are the guiding thread of my development.
How can we begin to implement all this?
1. Every morning, standing in front of the mirror, we say out loud either what I wrote above or our text - but without the prefixes “NOT”, which are ignored by the unconscious.
2. We nourish the body according to its biological needs.
3. We work with our fears, emotions, unfinished traumatic situations - both independently and with professional help, in order to resist the urge to “eat up” all of the above.
So why does our body sometimes so stubbornly resist giving away what it has accumulated?
The view of an ordinary average woman on her body, based on research by American psychologists, is evaluative, critical, and dissatisfied. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, in the vast majority of cases we are busy counting wrinkles, folds, bumps, hairs, etc.
And when we begin to make efforts to improve our body in accordance with our tastes (which are usually a replica of the tastes of society), our dissatisfaction increases to a degree... “How is this so?! - we hiss at the body, standing on the scales in the morning. “Yesterday, at the cost of enormous effort, I gave up dinner, and the needle on the scale is in the same place???!!!” Etc…
Imagine this situation for a moment: you work to the limit of your capabilities, try, give your best every day, and your boss is constantly dissatisfied with you. Instead of - at least occasionally - praising, encouraging, thanking you, he constantly increases the momentum of his demands, compares you with Klavdia Petrovna from the plan, for whom everything is “excellent”, but with you... You are counting on a bonus - and he you are fined for any, even the most trifling, reason. At the same time, he exploits you beyond measure, neglecting your needs for proper rest. I think each of you has something to add to this picture...
How long will you last in this mode? And how will you treat such a boss? I think that the degree of your resistance to such an attitude will be directly proportional to its pressure on you...
I hope this sketch reminds you of something. If you really treat your body differently, I’m very happy for you! But for those who came to this line thinking... Let's move on.
When does alienation from one's body occur?
It seems that for many of us - in early childhood. When parents often swear, for example: “Dirty!” or “Look what you look like! All children are like children, and you...!!!” When we are driven into shame for any reason. Shame is the feeling that appears when a significant adult tells you: “You are different! Nastier, dirtier, stupider, uglier, less perfect than US.” Shame makes a person lonely: here they are, so perfect, and here I am, so disgusting... How can a small creature cope with this? One of the ways is to internally alienate yourself from the body that creates all these outrages. What should the body do? Shrink, slouch, hide under a layer of fat... And console yourself with something tasty... And alone, secretly from the all-seeing eye of an adult...
And when we grow up, we often copy the behavior and attitudes of our parents in relation to ourselves. For example, in relation to the body. The body already has very little chance to please us with its perfection - the standards of bodily perfection in modern society are too perverted, far from the physiological norm... And then there is also the childish habit of being ashamed of one’s body, punishing it, ignoring its needs... But the body is me! So we are ashamed and ignore ourselves? Looks like it...
How to negotiate with your resistance to change?
How to get out of this circle? Step by step, restoring the internal connections of the spiritual and physical, damaged by upbringing and the pressure of “ideal standards”. According to our culture, even touching yourself again seems like a perversion. But the body needs touches... Through them, connection and unity with the soul, with itself is restored...
This is exactly what you can do without shame for “perversions” - buy a hand massager - either like a two-handed washcloth or a “handheld” - and massage yourself morning and evening. Saying to yourself: “I am beautiful, I am smart, what kind of legs, tummy, arms, etc. I have.” If you have children, remember how you cooed with them in their infancy - now you do the same with yourself.
And also - under the shower, on a washcloth - with fragrant soap - and with gentle movements, carefully, with love... And you can also use your imagination and imagine how water washes away everything unnecessary - even fat accumulations, which the body is so eager to get rid of...
Well, creams, of course... We smear ourselves and imagine how elasticity and muscle tone are returned - or confirmed - and we ourselves form the body that we want so much.
Be prepared to face resistance. With the fact that the “enthusiasm” will last for a maximum of five days, then everything will try to return to normal. And that's normal! All your life you have basically ignored and shamed your body, it has become accustomed to your betrayal and “attacks” - and what do you want to “build bridges” in a couple of weeks and receive forgiveness for years of betrayal? Well, this is unlikely... Treat resistance with understanding... Take a break... Just without grumbling and accusations... With sympathy and acceptance... Do you look in the mirror at least a couple of times a day? Just smile or wink at yourself, or somehow make it clear that you are one...
Every time you approach yourself with care, love, a washcloth, a massager or cream, remember that you are free to stop these “flirtations” at any moment and again become a harsh judge and a rejecting, strict evaluator. Over time, you will definitely figure out what is more pleasant and useful for you.
And here's something else to help: any habit can be formed in 40 days - a fact proven by psychological science. The choice is always yours...
