Relationships between generations - an example from life. What are the sources of misunderstanding between people of different generations? Reasons that cause misunderstanding between people of different ages

The problem of intergenerational relationships has probably existed since the appearance of humanity on Earth. Relationships between generations, unfortunately, are always a complex and pressing problem.

Countless minds have wondered about the causes and solutions to the problem of relationships between fathers and children. Why, it would seem, the closest people, blood relatives, cannot find a common language? Why do so many different tensions and disagreements arise? Why doesn't the younger generation understand and don't want to understand their elders?

The clash of different life positions of children and their fathers a priori takes place in the modern world. Views on life at different times in society differ, and what was the norm or even the rule thirty years ago is losing its relevance today. Living standards, the political situation in the country, cultural, social and material values are changing, which also affects a person’s life position and is the basis for conflicts.

Reasons that cause misunderstanding between people of different ages

Let's try to find out the causes of conflicts and complex relationships between generations. There is no single reason; generational relationship problems are based on a number of reasons. Often, dissatisfaction with each other and silent protest accumulate for years, only to spill out at one not so wonderful moment. It all depends on the people themselves, who cannot find a common language and the peculiarities of building relationships in the family.

As a rule, unacceptable behavior of family members, financial problems, incompatibility of interests, everyday difficulties, social status of the parties, differences in moral values between generations, and others are considered stumbling blocks.

It happens that the older generation in the family does not want to see that the children have grown up, they have developed their own values and beliefs, perhaps diametrically opposed to their vision of the world, and do not want to put up with this state of affairs. Older people, perhaps with the best intentions and desire to pass on their experience to the younger generation, often dictate the conditions and rules of life, which inevitably leads to conflict.

Young people do not want to live by the rules of their elders, and they want to build their lives in their own way. They believe that they have enough knowledge and age is not a hindrance to their own opinion on things. Such disagreements cause conflict between the parties, and the opportunity to find out the very essence of the problem is lost.

The problem of relationships between fathers and children only worsens during disputes and mutual accusations, and there is no way out in such a situation. To minimize conflicts and avoid clashes between the parties, it is necessary to take into account the psychological characteristics of each participant in the dispute.

It is worth noting that the younger generation does not always go against the adults; it all depends on the foundations and traditions of the family, as well as upbringing. Often people who have been instilled with family values since childhood plan their lives without giving up the advice and experience of their elders. There is also a tendency to choose a career under the influence of parents and model one's family on the example of one's ancestors. A person’s socialization is also influenced by uncontrollable factors such as social circle and the situation that exists in the society where the teenager is located.

Family as a source of misunderstanding

The source of the problem of intergenerational relationships is the decline in the eyes of the public of the very institution of family as such. For example, in our country, socio-cultural values have changed over the past twenty years; the younger generation often does not see their place in society and is in a certain uncertainty.

An unstable political situation and the inculcation of the ideology of permissiveness gives rise to uncontrollable licentiousness as the norm of life. In the minds of young people, an erroneous opinion is formed about the uselessness of older people, and instead of honor and respect, old people receive a negative attitude towards them.

How to find trust and mutual understanding

The solution to these problems is a trusting relationship in the family, when a child can turn to adults with his problems, without expecting censure and prohibitions, and I know that mom, dad or grandmother will try to get to the bottom of the issue and will be able to help as loyally as possible. Otherwise, the future adult will withdraw into himself, which will lead either to depression and self-doubt for the rest of his life, or unbridled protest, which will subsequently lead to conflicts between the parties.

You need to remember that your family is your fortress, which you must protect and defend, since your loved ones are the most important in life. We should also not forget about the proverb: “If youth knew, if old age could.” And today we are children, and tomorrow we are mothers and fathers, and essentially our whole life will depend on how and on what principles we build relationships in our family.

One of the main features of adolescence and early adolescence is the change of significant persons and the restructuring of relationships with adults.

One of the most important needs of adolescence is the need for liberation from the control and guardianship of parents, teachers, elders in general, as well as from the rules and procedures established by them.

The psychology of adolescence is closely related to the problem of “fathers and sons”, continuity and conflict of generations. In a sense, this problem is eternal.

However, the word " generation" is ambiguous. It means:

generation, a link in the chain of descent from a common ancestor;
an age-homogeneous group, a cohort of peers born at the same time and forming a certain stratum of the population;
the conditional period of time during which a given generation lives and is active;
contemporaries-people who were formed in certain historical conditions, under the influence of some significant events and united by a common historical fate and experiences.

In general terms, we can say that the higher the pace of historical development, the more socially significant changes are carried out per unit of time, the more noticeable the differences between generations. Therefore, the mechanisms of continuity, the transfer of culture from elders to younger ones are more complex, and the more selective the attitude of the younger ones towards their social and cultural heritage is.

The relationships between generations can never and nowhere be absolutely equal and symmetrical. The elders teach and educate the younger ones, introduce them to the culture inherited from the past and subsequently pass on this heritage to them.

The acceleration of technical and social development makes reliance on the experience of previous generations insufficient. Configurative culture shifts the center of gravity from the past to the present. She focuses not so much on her elders, but on her contemporaries, equal in age and experience. In education, the influence of parents is balanced and outweighed by the influence of peers, etc. This coincides with a change in the structure of the family, turning from a “large family” to a nuclear one, consisting of a married couple and their offspring. Hence the growing importance of youth groups, the emergence of a special youth subculture and all kinds of intergenerational conflicts.

Nowadays, the pace of development has become so fast that past experience is not only insufficient, but often even harmful, preventing bold and progressive approaches to new, unprecedented circumstances.

Previously, an old man could say to a young man: “You must obey me, for I was young, and you were not old, so I know everything better than you.” Today he may hear in response: “But you have never been young in the conditions in which we have to live, so your experience is useless to us.” With this, Mead explains both the youth “counterculture” and student unrest in the United States.

The degree of similarity and continuity of generations is not the same in different areas of life. In the sphere of consumer orientations, leisure, artistic tastes, sexual morality, the discrepancies between parents and children, older and younger in general, as a rule, are much greater than in the main social values. Young people always want to be different from their elders, and the easiest way to do this is with the help of external accessories. One of the functions of youth fashion and slang often shocks conservative fathers. With their help, teenagers and young men mark and distinguish “us” from “strangers”. Let's say in the field of musical hobbies there are already big differences between 15-17 year olds and 20-23 year olds; they are oriented towards different music, and in other areas of culture their tastes may coincide.

Modern teenagers, not without reason, are reproached for the fact that their emotional uninhibition sometimes develops into moral laxity.

The style of raising children, its goals, methods, achievements and failures cannot be understood outside the holistic way of life and culture of the people and society. Not everything here depends on free discretion.

Of the factors of socialization, the most important and influential was and remains the parental family as the primary unit of society, the influence of which the child experiences first of all, when he is most susceptible. Family conditions, including social status, occupation, material level and level of education of parents, largely determine the life path of the child. In addition to the conscious, purposeful education that his parents give him, the child is influenced by the entire intra-family atmosphere, and the effect of this influence accumulates with age, refracting in the structure of the personality.

In addition to the educational level of parents, the fate of adolescents and young men is greatly influenced by the composition of the family and the nature of the relationships between its members. Unfavorable family conditions are characteristic of the vast majority of so-called difficult teenagers.

A significant influence on the personality of adolescents is exerted by the style of their relationship with their parents, which is only partly determined by their social status.

There are several relatively autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children:

reinforcement: by encouraging behavior that adults consider correct and punishing for violation of established rules, parents introduce into the child’s mind a certain system of norms, the observance of which gradually becomes a habit and internal need for the child.
identification: the child imitates his parents, follows their example, tries to become just like them.
understanding: knowing the child’s inner world and sensitively responding to his problems, parents thereby form his self-awareness and communicative qualities.

Family socialization is not limited to the direct “paired” interaction of the child with his parents. Thus, the identification effect can be neutralized by counter-role complementarity: for example, in a family where both parents know how to run a house very well, the child may not develop these abilities, since, although he has a good example before his eyes, the family does not need to demonstrate these qualities; on the contrary, in a family where the mother is uneconomical, this role can be taken on by the eldest daughter. The mechanism of psychological counteraction is no less important: a young man whose freedom is severely limited can develop an increased desire for independence, and one who is allowed to do everything can grow up independent.

At the same time, the social tone of family relationships between generations and the prevailing type of control and discipline in the family are very important.

Psychologists present the emotional tone of the relationship between parents and children in the form of a scale on one pole which stands for the most close, warm, friendly relationship, and at the other - distant, cold and hostile. In the first case, the main means of education are attention and encouragement, in the second - severity and punishment. Many studies prove the advantage of the first approach. A child deprived of strong and unequivocal evidence of parental love is less likely to have high self-esteem, warm and friendly relationships with others, and a stable positive self-image. A study of young men and adults suffering from psychophysiological and psychosomatic disorders, neurotic disorders, difficulties in communication, mental activity or learning shows that all these phenomena are much more often observed in those who lacked parental attention and warmth in childhood. Hostility or inattention on the part of parents causes unconscious mutual hostility in children. This hostility can manifest itself both openly, towards the parents themselves, and covertly. Unaccountable, unmotivated cruelty, shown by some teenagers and young men towards strangers who have not done anything wrong to them, often turns out to be precisely the result of childhood experiences. If this powerless aggression is directed inward, it gives low self-esteem, feelings of guilt, anxiety, etc.

The best relationships between high school students and parents usually develop when parents adhere to a democratic parenting style. This style most contributes to the development of independence, activity, initiative and social responsibility.

Extreme types of relationships, no matter whether they go towards authoritarianism or liberal all-tolerance, give bad results. The authoritarian style causes children to become alienated from their parents and feel unimportant and unwanted in the family. Parental demands, if they seem unreasonable, cause either protest and aggression, or habitual apathy and passivity. An inflection towards all-tolerance causes a teenager to feel that his parents do not care about him. In addition, passive, uninterested parents cannot be the subject of imitation and identification, and other influences - school, peers, mass media - often cannot fill this gap, leaving the child without proper guidance and orientation in a complex and changing world. The weakening of the parental principle contributes to the formation of a personality with a weak “I”.

Transitional age- the period of emancipation of the child from his parents. This process is complex and multidimensional. Emancipation can be emotional, showing how significant emotional contact with parents is for a young man compared to attachments to other people, behavioral, manifested in how strictly parents regulate the behavior of their son or daughter, or normative, showing whether the young man is guided by the same norms and the same values as his parents, or some others.

Increased independence limits the functions of parental authority. By the senior grades, behavioral autonomy is already quite high: a high school student independently distributes his time, chooses friends, leisure activities, etc. In families with a more or less authoritarian structure, this autonomy sometimes causes acute conflicts.

In seeking to expand their rights, high school students often make excessive demands on their parents, including financial ones.

The degree of identification with parents in youth is less than in childhood. Of course, good parents remain an important standard of behavior for a high school student.

However, the parental example is no longer perceived as absolutely and uncritically as in childhood. A high school student has other authorities besides his parents. The older the child, the more likely it is that he draws ideals not only from his immediate environment, but also from a wider circle of people.

In the psychological and pedagogical literature, the question of the relative influence of parents and peers on adolescents is widely debated. However, there cannot be a clear answer to this. The general pattern is that the worse a teenager’s relationships with adults are, the more often he will communicate with peers, the higher his dependence on peers and the more autonomous this communication will be from adults.

But the influence of parents and peers is not always opposite; more often they are complementary.

« Significance» for boys and girls, their parents and peers are fundamentally different in different areas of activity. The greatest autonomy from parents when focusing on peers is observed in the spheres of leisure, entertainment, free communication, and consumer orientations.

Most of all, high school students would like to see friends and advisers in their parents. For all their desire for independence, boys and girls are in dire need of life experience and the help of their elders. They cannot discuss many exciting problems with their peers at all, as pride gets in the way.

However, relationships between high school students and parents are often burdened with conflicts and their mutual understanding leaves much to be desired.

“I’m already 17 years old, and my mother and I have never had a heart-to-heart talk... I would even tell everything that worries me to any other woman.”

In a study of youth friendship, it was specifically recorded how schoolchildren from grades 7 to 10 assessed the level of understanding on the part of their parents, ease of communication and their own frankness with them. It turned out that in all these indicators, parents are inferior to friends - peers of the respondents and that the degree of psychological closeness with parents sharply decreases from 7th to 9th grade.

The reason for this is rooted primarily in the psychology of adults and parents who do not want to notice changes in the inner world of a teenager and young man.

It is possible to understand a hidden person only if we respect him, accepting him as a kind of autonomous reality. The most common (and completely fair!) complaint of boys and girls about their parents is: “They don’t listen to me!” Haste, inability, unwillingness to listen, to understand what is happening in the complex world of youth, to try to look at the problem through the eyes of a son or daughter, smug confidence in the infallibility of one’s life experience - this is what primarily creates a psychological barrier between parents and growing children.

A group of Moscow tenth graders were asked to rate themselves on various qualities (kindness, sociability, courage, self-control, self-confidence, etc.) using a five-point system, and then predict how their parents, friends and classmates would rate them using the same system (I. S. Kon and V. A. Losenkov). Afterwards, fathers and mothers invited to the school were also asked to rate their children's qualities and predict their self-esteem. Already the first tests showed that children have a much more accurate idea of how their parents will evaluate them than parents have of their youth’s self-esteem. A similar result was obtained by the French psychologist R. Thome. The most thoughtful parents were very interested in the task of imagining the self-esteem of their offspring, that is, how to “get into his shoes,” but found it difficult. And some parents couldn’t even understand the task: “What does it mean to evaluate a son’s qualities the way he evaluates them himself? I know better what he really is.” Even trying conscientiously to take the point of view of their son or daughter, some parents turned out to be unable to renounce their own judgments: what seems to them to be their son’s self-esteem is actually the parent’s assessment of his qualities. This means that the child’s self-awareness, his “I”, is not known to the parents. And this seriously complicates the understanding of children: boys and girls.

In another study, the relationship of high school students with their parents was studied from the point of view of the trust of communication on the part of high school students, the information content of communication, the attention shown by children to the affairs and lives of their parents, and the authority of parents' opinions for high school students. 140 Moscow families were surveyed, and children and parents were surveyed separately. It turned out that high school students, regardless of gender, are more frank with their mother than with their father, more often turn to her for advice and are more sympathetic towards her. Fathers only have an advantage in the “information sphere” when it comes to politics and sporting events.

What is also striking is the pronounced asymmetry of the interests of children and parents: parents pay attention to all aspects of their children’s lives, while children show little interest in the life and work of their parents. This is especially clearly manifested in communication with fathers: children rarely ask them about official affairs, years of childhood and youth, etc.

Relationships between children and parents asymmetrical, unequal. Many parents, accustomed to controlling their children, are painfully aware of the weakening of their power. In addition, certain cultural prohibitions apply. For example, it is not customary for us to discuss sexual problems with representatives of other age groups; this is done only with peers. As a result, the most important area of a teenager’s intimate experiences is “removed” from communication with his parents. In a survey of 402 couples of young Muscovites who applied for marriage, 85% of brides and 80% of grooms said that they had never discussed marriage and family problems with their fathers (35% and 63% with mothers, respectively). Topics that are extremely important for adolescence and early adolescence - “stages of puberty” and “intimate relationships” - occupy last places in conversations with parents.

But if it is impossible to talk about what worries you most, communication inevitably takes on a formal, routine character. Both sides feel the barrier that has arisen between them, suffer from it, but cannot do anything. The more parents “press” on behavior, academic performance and other formal-role (albeit, of course, important) aspects of their children’s lives, the more formal and regulated their relationships become.

Young men are inattentive to their parents due to their age egocentrism. Absorbed in themselves, they see their parents only in certain and sometimes not the most attractive forms, which can only be broken by new information, highlighting the usual image of the “ancestor” from some unexpected side. And parents expect warmth and understanding from their grown children and at the same time are mortally afraid of discovering their human weaknesses, which children have long known.

There is an illusion in the loving souls of parents that their grown-up children need them in the same capacity as they did in early childhood. But this installation is a source of constant conflicts. And here it is especially difficult for fathers. It was no coincidence that the generational conflict was formulated as a clash between father and son. Without touching on the psychological theory of the Oedipus complex, the prevalence of such conflicts can be explained, on the one hand, by social reasons (emancipation from paternal authority, the son’s struggle for the right to choose his own path in life), and on the other, by psychological reasons (rigidity and instrumentality of the male character, which impede mutual understanding and compromises).

Today paternal role has become particularly complex and problematic. In many families, fathers are absent altogether; their influence on children is mostly lower than that of mothers. According to Ufa schoolchildren surveyed by V.D. Popov, over a third of their fathers practically do not do household chores, two-thirds of fathers do not help their children with their studies, and do not discuss books, films, or television shows with them. Answering the question: “Who do you share your secrets with?” - children, starting from the fifth grade, put friends first, then mothers, grandmothers, and fathers last. In some families, the only form of communication between fathers and children is watching TV shows together, after which the family quietly goes to bed. Psychological closeness with fathers is also relatively rare.

Paternal feelings and the paternal role themselves require a certain upbringing and training. In the old patriarchal society, whose norms we still unwittingly focus on, there was no need to learn fatherhood. Be a strong and successful man in society, and everything else - a comfortable home, respect from others, an obedient wife and children - will appear automatically. Fussing with children and breeding “veal tenderness” is not a man’s business. This was the prevailing attitude, and although many men felt uncomfortable in this world and experienced a lack of emotional warmth and intimacy, this was not perceived as a social problem.

Today the situation has changed dramatically. Women's emancipation and other processes deprived men of their privileged position. In order to have peace of mind and authority in the family, a man must have a number of subtle psychological properties that have never been part of the traditional stereotype of masculinity, sensitivity, attentiveness, responsiveness, etc. Their lack has a painful effect on the psyche and health of men. Following the system of values accepted in the society of their peers, teenage boys diligently eradicate these supposedly “feminine” qualities in themselves, and when they become adults, they discover that they are unable to express the experiences that excite them. The armor with which a teenager surrounds himself in self-defense turns into a prison from which an adult man cannot free himself. When it comes to expressing emotions, a “real man” sometimes resembles the proverbial dog: he understands everything, but cannot say it. In terms of the level of spiritual self-disclosure, men are significantly inferior to women, and this is acutely manifested in the family and relationships with children. Therefore, while involving fathers in education, the school must simultaneously provide them with the necessary psychological assistance.

Fathers and Sons. What are the sources of misunderstanding between people of different generations?

Since the ancient times of human society, the problem of relationships between older and younger generations has been one of the main ones. People have always believed that an ideal family should be built on the love and respect of children for their elders. The thinker Cicero once said the following words: “Love for parents is the basis of all virtues.” However, ideas about harmonious relationships between “fathers and children” and difficult life situations often diverge. The inevitable change of generations is sometimes accompanied by conflicts, disharmony, and differences in the views of older and younger ones. Why do such situations happen? Let's try to understand this issue.

The eternal problem of “fathers and sons” has become one of the main ones in many works of literature.

Let us turn to the famous drama by A.N. Ostrovsky's "The Thunderstorm", written in the mid-nineteenth century. What conflict does the playwright portray in this play? The story of the collapse of a merchant family, the head of which is Marfa Kabanova, is tragic. The keeper of patriarchal foundations, based on the unquestioning submission of children to their parents, completely destroys the home, which for centuries was warmed and supported by the Russian people with maternal love and care for loved ones. The merchant's wife denies the children's ability to independently solve life's problems, demands respect for herself, while not respecting their interests. A power-hungry and selfish woman keeps everything under her control. Tired of his mother’s constant and petty care, her son Tikhon becomes an alcoholic. The man has turned into a weak-willed and wordless slave who cannot build his personal life in his own way and protect his young wife from Kabanikha’s nagging. At the first opportunity, he runs away from home to get drunk and forget about problems that need to be solved. Lonely and unhappy Katerina Kabanova does not find a way out of the life impasse to which her existence in her mother-in-law's house has led. The poor young woman is tired of the hurtful words and reproaches that she hears every day from the power-hungry merchant's wife. Loneliness pushes her to cheat on her husband, and then to suicide. Katerina does not find a way out of the situation in which life has put her. Kabanikha's daughter Varvara grows up hypocritical and deceitful, adapting to her mother in any, sometimes the most immoral, ways. A.N. Ostrovsky warned us that the relationship between parents and children, built on hypocrisy and hypocrisy, will bear bad fruit. Suppression of will will not allow them to grow socially mature and independent. It is necessary to build relationships with children based on mutual understanding and respect.

The famous Russian playwright paid attention to the problem of disharmony in the relationship between “fathers and children” in another drama – “Dowry”. The heroine of the drama, Larisa Ogudalova, lives in a merchant town on the Volga. This is a young woman, beautiful, intelligent, endowed with wonderful spiritual qualities. It would seem that such a sweet girl deserves happiness. But her life is crumbling just like the life of Katerina Kabanova. Larisa’s own mother is largely to blame for this. An insoluble conflict is brewing between her and her daughter. The mother is ready to give her own daughter to rich merchants for support, to cripple her life, because material values are more valuable to her than the girl’s happiness. Larisa is homeless. Rich townspeople do not want to marry a poor bride. And the mother is trying to “trade her own daughter” just to get material gain. A blank wall, an insoluble conflict, grows between a pure and noble girl and her mother. Larisa's life was tragically cut short because in her difficult moment she did not find support in her own family. This work, of course, makes us think that disharmony in the relationship between “Fathers and Sons” can sometimes lead to dire consequences.

Speaking about relationships between people of different generations, one should conclude: parents bear a huge responsibility when raising their children. Without love, mutual understanding, and commonality of views, the family hearth collapses. Russian literature has given us wonderful works that analyze the causes of generational conflicts. These reasons may vary. However, all writers agree on one thing: only sincere love between close people can overcome all differences in the family and resolve all difficult issues. Care, support and mutual understanding are the key to happiness among representatives of the older and younger generations.

The issue of the relationship between fathers and children is as old as the world. In another ancient Egyptian papyrus, a recording was found in which the author complains that children have ceased to respect their fathers, their religion and customs, and the world is collapsing.

The problem of intergenerational relationships will never go away, because the culture that educates one generation will be incomprehensible to another.

This problem is reflected in the works of many Russian writers of the 19th and 20th centuries. It worries us too, the generation of the 21st century. And, of course, it will be relevant as long as humanity exists. In the comedy “Woe from Wit” by A. S. Griboedov, Chatsky, an exponent of the modern ideas of the century, comes into conflict with the Famus society, adherents of the ideas of the past century.

In the play “The Thunderstorm” by A. N. Ostrovsky, young people enter into a fight against tyrants who are becoming obsolete. The poet Lermontov, on the contrary, saw in the outgoing generation the best that his contemporaries had lost. What is common in all these cases is that the essence of the conflict lies in the difference in life principles, and most often in political views. For example, in I. S. Turgenev’s novel “Fathers and Sons,” the writer does not divide the characters simply by age. In the work there is a conflict between liberal nobles and democrats. The point of view of the children in the novel is defended only by Bazarov. Arkady Kirsanov, the same age as Evgeniy and at first like-minded, ultimately chooses the principles of his fathers. Bazarov is a nihilist. He preaches the idea of complete denial of what the “fathers” stand for. He believes that in this way it is possible to change the world and end the contradictions of society. But the most tragic pages in the novel are the pages where Turgenev talks about Bazarov’s relationship with his father. Devotion to the idea forces Evgeniy to abandon loved ones, home, family. And only in the face of death does the hero discover human values: love for parents, for a woman, religious feelings. By tearing away his parents' home, Evgeniy loses the connection, so necessary for every person, with his origins. And this impoverishes himself mentally and morally.

But not only representatives of the 19th and 20th centuries faced the problem of mutual understanding between generations. The relationship between fathers and children worries us, the generation of the twenty-first century. The older generation believes that their life experience gives them the right to dictate their behavior to young people, make comments, and force them to follow their advice. And young people, in turn, think that they have a sufficient amount of knowledge, and what does age have to do with it. And the solution is so simple: you need to be more tolerant of each other. The older generation should give young people the opportunity to take initiative and take into account their views and interests. And young people have a lot to learn from their elders. Who is better, the older generation or the younger, is a question that is difficult to answer. It’s just that we, the younger generation, live in a different era. We are different. And in order for the gap that separates one generation from another to become smaller, everyone needs to be patient and respect each other’s views.

Complex relationships between representatives of different generations have existed since time immemorial. The topic of fathers and sons is always relevant. Philosophers, thinkers, writers still cannot find the key to solving this problem.

Why do people related by blood sometimes fail to find mutual understanding? Why do frictions and disagreements arise? Why don’t “children” understand “fathers” and vice versa? There is no single cause of conflict; problems arise for a number of reasons.

Often, discontent and silent protest accumulate over years, and at some point

negativity breaks through. Much depends on the opponents themselves, who cannot come to a consensus due to the peculiarities of building relationships within the family. A difficult period often occurs during the period of growing up, when a teenager, for no apparent reason, shows aggression towards his parents. Elders need to be patient to get through this difficult time and provide moral support to their offspring.

The origins of conflicts may also lie in difficult financial situations, everyday difficulties, incompatibility of interests, unacceptability of fashion, social circle, and even in the social status of representatives of different generations.

The problem of relationships worsens during moments of disputes that develop into mutual reproaches. To minimize conflicts, it is necessary to take into account the peculiarities of the worldview and psychology of the participants in disputes. Attempts to prove that you are right, to impose your own opinion only aggravate the situation.

Trusting relationships in the family can smooth out any conflicts. The child should know that he can seek the advice of elders who will delve into his problem, without moralizing, reprimanding or prohibitions. We must remember that the family is a fortress that must be preserved and protected, because members of the household, with their advantages and disadvantages, are our closest people.

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