Secrets of Eastern women. Marry an Eastern man: rules for a happy life
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More and more often you can see Russian women and girls on the streets arm in arm with men of Eastern nationality. What makes our compatriots connect their fate with representatives of a completely different culture? Let's figure it out.Eastern men know how to look after you beautifully
Usually they spare no money for their beloved, shower her with flowers, take her to restaurants, speak admiringly... This is captivating, because Russian men do not always show such generosity.They are responsible
In the East, it is customary for a man to make all decisions. He is fully responsible for his home and his family and is unlikely to shift problems onto a woman. This suits many of our women.They make good money
At least among them there are few slackers. And they do their work with soul. But among our compatriots there are many quitters who are not averse to sitting on their wife’s neck. In addition, residents of the East actively maintain connections with their diaspora. Therefore, they quickly make a career. True, we must keep in mind that most natives of the East who come to Russia are engaged in trade or restaurant business, which border on crime. Although among them there are also representatives of completely peaceful, intellectual professions - lawyers, journalists, translators, programmers, bank workers.They are not prone to alcoholism
As you know, many Russian men are friends with the green serpent. Easterners, as a rule, love good wines, but this is a rarity among them. But some of them can smoke marijuana.At least they are brutal and temperamental, and impotent people are rare among them. This is the genetics of these horsemen.
There are no suitable men of your nationality
Alas, in Russia there is a real problem with the stronger sex: for every one reproductive age there are at least five women of the same age. At the same time, we take into account that many free representatives of the stronger sex abuse alcohol or drugs, do not work, suffer from various physical and mental ailments, or have character traits that are incompatible with marital relations. So unfortunate Russian women have to look for alternative options. But there are a lot of Caucasians and Asians in Russia, and there are many more men than women. And they are ready to date Russian girls.Underwater rocks
But do not forget about the problems that may await you in such a marriage.For example, you should hardly expect your Eastern husband to help you with housework. More precisely, he will perform men’s duties, but he will not wash the dishes or do the cleaning for anything - in eastern tradition this should be done by a woman and only a woman.
An Eastern man can easily make you his mistress, but if he wants to marry you, his family may object, and in the East it is not customary to resist the will of your parents.
One of my friends’ granddaughter lived in a civil marriage with an Armenian (mind you, not even a Muslim!) Then she became pregnant by him. And then her lover’s mother arrived and simply took her son home. She didn’t need a Russian daughter-in-law, but he didn’t resist. Since my mother said it, it means it has to be done! Now the young woman is raising her child alone.
If you move to your husband’s homeland, then you will most likely have to change your religion (if he is Muslim) and live according to the customs of another culture. For example, to serve the husband and his numerous relatives, to receive guests who may come to the house every day. Moreover, you will not even have the right to sit with your husband at the same table.
U eastern men a slightly different idea of family values than our compatriots. So, he may well have mistresses, but you will be prohibited from even once again leave the house, and any contact with strangers, even at work, will be suppressed.
Some natives of the East turn out to be real tyrants. Such a man is unlikely to take your opinion into account; he will limit your money for the household, raise children at his own discretion, and demand from you only submission to his will. If you dare to contradict, you may even be beaten.
It is also not uncommon for an Eastern man to start two families: the first in his homeland, and the second in a foreign land, where he works. And you can find out about the existence of another family completely by accident. For example, when getting married according to Islamic laws, a stamp is not placed in the passport. But representatives of the Christian religion – Georgians and Armenians – also do this. In this case, they can live in a civil marriage with one of the wives, or they cheat with documents.
Senior researcher at the Institute of Psychology of the Russian Academy of Sciences, executive director of the program for social and psychological support for migrants, Olga Makhovskaya advises: “You should only marry those who agree to stay in Moscow, who will speak Russian with you and send their children to a Russian school. If you are offered to go to the groom’s homeland, for example, to Azerbaijan or Armenia, do not agree! This is a completely different culture and tradition. Our women, as practice shows, simply cannot withstand such a test.”
An affair with an oriental man seems to many women to be an opportunity to build ideal relationship. How could it be otherwise if the chosen one looks after you very beautifully and surrounds you with care? Meanwhile, psychologists consider it a rare phenomenon happy marriages at the intersection of different cultures. How to create exactly this? We tell you together with experts.
It is unlikely that we will surprise you if we say that mutual support, understanding and a willingness to compromise are important for any relationship. However, in the case of an Eastern man, all this plays a decisive role: differences in temperament and cultural traditions can cause serious scandals. To avoid them, psychologists advise not only to be flexible in your partner’s actions, but also not to forget about the subtleties of his oriental upbringing at all stages of relationship development.
What is important to remember
We all come from childhood, and for most southern men it is quite harsh. “Eastern young men are brought up in strictness and respect for women. This leaves an imprint on all subsequent relationships. Therefore, if a Russian woman does not position herself as an easy prey, there will be no frivolities towards her,” explains psychologist Daniil Davydov. What’s nice is that this rule applies to any occasion and for Arab sheikh, and for the “Russified” southerner.
From childhood, Eastern men are instilled with another important trait - generosity. Get ready for the fact that during the courtship period your southern gentleman will give beautiful gifts, shower you with compliments and surround you with attention. What's the secret? “The so-called candy-bouquet period among Eastern men is a kind of game, a way to show that he is the best candidate for the role of husband and son-in-law,” explains psychologist Daniil Davydov. Passionate and temperamental, they are ready to do a lot for a girl. But let’s be realistic: this particular period in relations with Eastern men is one of the most fleeting.
One should not lose sight of the fact that family is perhaps the main value in the philosophy of southern gentlemen. Moreover, both the one that he is just going to build, and the one where he grew up. However, the latter is sometimes decisive. In a patriarchal Muslim family, according to tradition future wife parents choose for their son. Entire rituals are dedicated to this, so there is always a risk that the Slavic bride may be received with hostility by the chosen one’s relatives. And the reason for this is not the bad character of the future mother-in-law or father-in-law. “The fact is that Islamic culture was formed many centuries ago. And for parents, a dissident daughter-in-law is nothing more than a kind of “program failure,” says Daniil Davydov.
But when married to an Eastern man, most women literally feel like they are “behind their husband.” Judge for yourself: he takes on all the responsibilities for financially providing for the family, protects it and is able to make all the difficult decisions himself. “In the understanding of the Eastern man, his sacred duty is to provide for his wife and children to the fullest at all costs. Otherwise, it will be a great shame for him,” notes psychologist Anna Baranova. But there is also a downside: housekeeping, according to southern gentlemen, should be run exclusively by a woman. Therefore, you should not expect him to help you around the house: wash dishes, do laundry, or cook dinner with you. Although, as you know, there are exceptions to any rule.
Rules happy relationship with an oriental man
1. Consider the peculiarities of his mentality
The concept of an attractive and interesting woman among European and Eastern men is very different. And if in the first case the usual ones “work” most often bright makeup, revealing outfits and behavior like the “life of the party”, for an Eastern man, this whole entourage, as a rule, arouses distrust. True, if your southerner has been living in a European environment for a long time, then, most likely, he will calmly react to your attempts to “shine” or dominate intellectually. But, of course, any Eastern gentleman will like the combination of modesty and self-esteem in a woman.
Bernard Borderie's film "Angelique and the King" colorfully talks about the benefits of a relationship with an oriental man.
2. Don't criticize his family or religion.
Both are key values for most Eastern men. In the traditions of Islamic culture, parents are sacredly revered, and issues of faith are simply not discussed. Of course, there are exceptions in this case, but in general the situation is exactly like this. Another important point is religion: yours and your joint children. With the first one, everything is quite simple: if you can come to an agreement with your chosen one, there is no need to change him (although your spouse’s family will most likely prove the opposite to you). But with common children the situation is much more complicated: they will most likely be raised in the Muslim faith.
3. Find out the relationship correctly
Conflicts are a normal element of any relationship. But in an alliance with an Eastern man, they are, as a rule, complicated by the increased temperament of the chosen one and the peculiarities of his mentality. Therefore, never sort things out in the presence of his relatives. In the Islamic tradition, a wife who contradicts her husband is a disgrace for him. Therefore, even a minor public quarrel can cause serious condemnation from relatives and cause a blow to your partner’s pride.
In addition, when sorting out your relationship with an Eastern man, watch your emotions - their violent expression will only inflame your partner more, and a minor quarrel can develop into a scandal. The standard “rules” of conflicts that we have already written about will also “work” here.
4. Don't try to make him jealous
Your innocent flirting with another is unlikely to help “refresh” your relationship with an oriental man, but rather “wake up the volcano”! The fact is that your chosen one will most likely perceive frivolous behavior with a stranger as a personal insult. And it will make you doubt your loyalty and honesty.
5. Be prepared to make concessions.
A man in the Eastern tradition is the unconditional head of the family. If you are used to taking the initiative in relationships or being a “mom” for your husband, for a successful union you will have to, if not abandon this behavior, then at least reconsider it. More flexibility and willingness to compromise! And don’t try to change an eastern man: southern partners are very sensitive to such attempts.
Discuss with your partner the morals and customs of his culture, ask how he sees your future together. Gently and delicately hint to him about what you would not like to change. Only by communicating and getting to know each other can you avoid unpleasant surprises. And who knows, maybe it’s yours living together will be more magical than 1000 and one Arabian nights.
The burning eyes of Eastern men, their tenderness and temperament rarely leaves any Slavic woman indifferent. Often in a southern country where you are vacationing or traveling, the hot sun begins to burn on your head, a slight intoxication hits you, but your soul contains only feelings and emotions. And especially with such colossal male attention... Well, what can I say...
In southern countries, any girl (woman) feels like a queen, catching the admiring glances of men. And many single girls who are disappointed in men of the “domestic manufacturer”, and women who have been alone for a long time, holding hands tightly, take risks and fall into the whirlpool of beautiful phrases and promises of Eastern men.
“Everything is at your feet, dear! Stars from the sky, stones from the bottom of the sea, be mine!” the men beat their chests. And women deprived of love are overwhelmed by a wave of arrogant and persistent male attention: they feel that they are beautiful and desirable as never before. A real oriental man knows how to love! Ready for action!
Usually, by looking at a woman, first of all, by her appearance (clothing, cosmetics) and behavior, you can immediately see what she is worthy of and men already decide how to behave with her! A girl has the right to control her own body.
Unfortunately, girls forget that Eastern men are suitors by their calling. And yet, they forget that the period of beautiful courtship and stormy nights ends as quickly as it all began. Often, Eastern love ends in tears, broken hearts, and sometimes even destinies. A fairy-tale mirage crumbles like a house of cards. It brings very strong bitterness, and after a while, already in her homeland, the girl understands the banal truth that after a stormy holiday romance, it is she who is hurt, and not the one who remained in a distant eastern country.
An eastern man brings a woman to ecstasy with gifts and caresses. She's ready for anything! But the basic rule of oriental sex is that desire must be mutual and equally strong. No one should please anyone. In bed, everything is done only for the mutual pleasure and joy of the partners. Everything is equal! So, for mutual pleasure, variety and improvement of the quality of sexual life - the secrets of Eastern love.
This is how a fairy tale called “Eastern Love” begins.
Looking at Eastern men, one gets the impression that in their heads, instead of thoughts, fiery music constantly sounds, and intoxicating wine flows in their veins. They intoxicate, intoxicate with their beautiful phrases, with compliments that we have never heard in our lives, they give us the fairy tale we dreamed of, they know how to beautifully present a story about the meaning of life and the fairy-tale love that they saw in our eyes. We look at them with fascination and sincerely believe that this is true. They give something that a European man could hardly give.
We enjoy every minute of this false love that so abruptly burst into our hearts and drove us crazy. Hot Arabs or sultry Azerbaijanis, gentle Dagestanis and romantic Turkmen seem to bring happiness into our lives.
We are sure that there is no reason to leave, you were not appreciated by others, and now everything will be fine! You just have to say the word and you will forever be carried in your arms and loved. They love you! Does it really matter that friends and relatives scare you with “dirty villages” and clogged huts, or say that you will have to “wash villages” all your life? And what is this in human terms? Is it just household amenities, comfort, shops?
What about the soul? If your soul reaches out for a certain person, then you will sacrifice all the benefits of civilization. After all, meeting a dear soul in our lives is a great rarity and great happiness. Which you won’t exchange for everyday comfort. And you will run to preserve your happiness. Next to this person.
But when loving an Eastern man, one must take into account the peculiarities of culture. This is something that has evolved over centuries. The mentality of an eastern man: he should have one wife, and at least 100 mistresses. And how many mistresses he has is none of your business, you will find out whether you have a chance to either be beaten, or listen to tons of “noodles” that no one else but you. But it’s always worth remembering that an Eastern man will never leave his family for his mistress, even if you have an unearthly passion.
Caucasians also have a very negative attitude towards any hints of contacts with other men, and contacts are not physical properties, but just stood nearby, looked, God forbid, told a joke. Therefore, 100%, when a close relationship arises, he will try to control and arrange scenes of jealousy. You get tired of explaining that when you said “hello” to your neighbor, you didn’t mean anything by it.
Girls who look at life more soberly and regard oriental tales as fairy tales, believe that for the sake of self-preservation, do not accept his proposals for a trip to his homeland. You don't know him well. The person may have uncontrollable fits of anger, and you will have nowhere to escape. If you want to go somewhere with him, then encourage him to go on a joint trip to a neutral place, anything, but not his native land).
It is clear that you should not flirt with Caucasian men. Even light flirting is perceived by them as a specific call. Therefore, you need to behave with them very carefully and immediately establish specifics in the relationship.
But the most interesting thing is that the attitude of local men towards our tourists is not serious. They often, behind their backs, call Slavic girls “sharmuts”, i.e. prostitutes. They believe that our girls come to the resort not only for new experiences, but also for new love.
Those who have experienced love with Eastern men say that we will not be able to understand each other normally. For Muslims, we will always remain Russian “Natashas” with whom we can only have fun. Even a businessman, always in a suit, a rare intellectual, can preach the values of a market seller of oranges and tangerines.
But what awaits the girl who agreed to connect her life with a stranger? Will strong resort oriental love be able to survive in a foreign country, where traditions are too strong and influence is great? public opinion? It is very difficult to decide to accept faith, to submit to all these traditions, prayers (and during Lent, prayers in the mosque occur 5 times a day), the willingness to wear a hijab (and no deep necklines, short shorts and dresses!), and to stay at home.
In general, bride kidnapping is not the most worthy custom in the North Caucasus. A kind of echo of ancient savagery. If the girl agrees, it won't go anywhere. But when they act on the principle of “saw, liked, stole,” this is not good. A young horseman rapes the bride and arranges a party. Since then, the bride has lived in her husband’s house; leaving for her parents is shameful, so live forever with someone you don’t love.
In the East, men love submissive wives, and you should be prepared for the fact that your place will be in the kitchen. Not everyone can sit at home, give birth to children, cook Arabic dishes, and obey not only her husband, who lives according to Sharia law, but also his mother.
Absolute patriarchy reigns in Caucasian marriages. Men can do anything, women can do nothing. "Wah, malchi, woman, when men talk, right?"
With the opening of the holiday season, men go to great lengths, but if, God forbid, a woman even looks in the other direction - everything is an ax to the head.
Yes, women in the Caucasus are a separate matter. Such patient, silent and submissive people cannot be found anywhere! Another would have long ago hit her husband on a spree with a rolling pin in the forehead, but these guys won’t, they will remain silent, silent, silent.
Here is a bitter truth about children in the East: The woman takes care of the children, but in case of divorce, the father raises the children.
All this is depressing... What about love? He's so unique! Should you believe in love?
Yes, LOVE IS WORTH BELIEVING! You just need to figure it out first (with a specific man) - is he in love or so - the call of the flesh. But since it is not possible to resolve this issue accurately during an average vacation, it is better to spend time on something else.
The beauty of Russian women is legendary. Russian girls take very good care of themselves and love to visit salons and fitness centers. This is what attracts. Oriental men also pay attention to their exotic appearance - fair skin, Brown hair and blue or grey eyes. In eastern countries this is considered very rare. Women who married representatives of the East and moved to Russia often pay attention to them on the street. Often, Eastern men start relationships with Russians to show off their “wonderfulness.”
Often, Eastern men marry Russians for financial reasons. Russian women do not require marriage dowry, gold or expensive clothing.
Eastern men are famous for their firmness, strength of character and ability to seduce even the most unapproachable representatives of the opposite sex. First of all, they idolize their family, mother and beloved woman.
Distinctive features of an eastern man
A brunette with burning eyes, a bright appearance, a stormy temperament and bold actions - isn’t this the dream of most women? In southern countries, girls feel like queens, because eastern men admire them. Why are they so attractive? As a rule, they are courteous and know how to win a woman, no matter what the cost. Tenderness, attentiveness, care and perseverance are exactly what a girl is looking for in her future life partner.However, the medal also has back side. Do not forget that men pay attention not only to appearance, but on the behavior of a woman. An Eastern man believes that a woman should not only help him in difficult times, but also unquestioningly fulfill his wishes. The beloved must be faithful and give the children a proper upbringing. A woman in the East is a guardian family hearth, and the man is a breadwinner and a conqueror. For many European women, such submission and devotion to their man is unacceptable, because they want to independently achieve career heights. In addition, men and women in Eastern countries lead separate lifestyles, which also applies public places. As a rule, oriental girls live in a world closed from men.
One of the main advantages of an Eastern man is discipline. Most Muslims believe in God and believe that the main purpose of life is to fulfill the will of Allah. Faith in God helped develop in Eastern men the ability to control themselves, which helps in many areas of life.
What kind of woman does an eastern man need?
Every man wants to know that he is loved and welcome at home. For an Eastern man, not only comfort in the home is important, but also the fidelity of his wife. An unfaithful wife disgraces her husband and is subject to various punishments according to Islamic law. Eastern men are very proud and respect the opinion of their family. An important wish of a Muslim is a good relationship with his parents. An Eastern man is very powerful and jealous, so the beauty of his woman should belong to him alone, and not attract the attention of strangers.If your chosen one is of oriental blood, you will most likely have to forget about short skirts and T-shirts. Your wardrobe should include items that cover your shoulders, elbows, knees and chest. Next to a Muslim there must be an intelligent and Strong woman, but it will be he who dominates the relationship. Think about the fact that family is complete mutual understanding that you need to strive for. Believe your feelings and you will have a strong, long-term relationship with an oriental man.
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The beauty of Russian women has long been admired. Slavic beauties know how to properly take care of their appearance and constantly resort to their secrets. This is why Eastern men often marry Russian girls.
Positive aspects of marriage between a Russian girl and an Eastern man
Foreign suitors are also flattered by the ability to be submissive, economical and flexible. This applies not only to everyday life, but also to intimate life couples. Compared to Oriental women, Russian beauties are more liberated in terms of sex and often dominate, from which they know how to derive pleasure.
A marriage with an Eastern man will be quite strong and reliable. The fact is that men from the east are sure that they are the protectors of the family, breadwinners and breadwinners. They will never demand that their wife help them earn money. By getting married, they take full responsibility for their spouse and their children. In addition, such families are rarely low-income.
Foreigners are very generous towards. They allow themselves to give their chosen one expensive gifts and jewelry. Most often, selfish girls fall for this, without realizing the further development of their relationship.
Negative aspects of marriage between a Russian woman and an Eastern man
Almost all Eastern men are against their women working. The wife, in their opinion, should only do household chores, run the household and raise children. In a relationship, the husband will always be the main one. The wife is obliged to help him in everything, not to contradict him and to carry out his will.
A Muslim family with many children requires four, five, or even six children. So a woman should be ready for this too. Moreover, in the event of a divorce, a representative of the fairer sex is unlikely to be able to take her child from the father.
In the east, as you know, families are very large. And the newly-made wife is obliged to treat all her husband’s relatives with respect, whether she likes them or not. Sisters, aunts, grandmothers will now and then actively participate in the development of relationships in your family.
Virginity is a very important indicator for Eastern men and for normal relationships in your future family.
Free independent movement of a Russian woman through the streets of a foreign country is prohibited among Muslims. A woman does not have the right to go to the store alone, meet her friends, or simply go for a walk. She must always be accompanied by her husband or an older male relative.
Should Russian girls marry Eastern men?
Like any other human relationship, marriage with an Eastern man has its pros and cons. Such family ties still contain more negative aspects than positive ones, but each woman imagines an ideal relationship in her own way.
If a girl has been raised since childhood and lived according to Christian principles, she is unlikely to be able to become real and get used to other people's traditions and customs.
Whether to marry an Eastern man or not is up to you to decide. However, before such a serious step, you need to clearly weigh all the positive and negative sides of this union.
On the Domashny channel, heroines share their real experiences. For absolutely everyone, moving to an eastern country became a reality; they had to change and establish relationships with their foreign husband and new relatives. Some were severely disappointed, others were quite satisfied. But they have something to tell those of our compatriots who cherish similar dreams.
Türkiye
This is the closest of the eastern countries and the most understandable for us. We go there on vacation, we are superficially familiar with the culture and way of life, the favorable attitude towards us as tourists makes us happy. But what does it really mean to marry a Turkish man and move to Turkey?
1. Türkiye is the most Europeanized state, so it is not necessary to follow strict rules of religion here. But this does not mean that they will not have to be taken into account at all. First of all, in order to be accepted into her husband’s family. But family foundations are an important condition of the Turkish way of life.
2. You will be able to engage in any active activity to which you are accustomed, drive a car and be free to move. But this does not free you from women's obligations - the Turks attach great importance to housekeeping.
3. But in constant confirmation of your importance to your husband, you will not have a shortage. Turkish men emotional and sensitive, and also brought up in traditional rules relationship with a woman. This also means that in conflicts with your husband you will have to be gentler.
Tunisia
Tunisia has stricter rules even for tourists. Compliance with restrictions on diet, clothing and behavior is more important here than in Turkey, since the lifestyle of local residents is largely subject to religious traditions and rituals. What does Tunisia have in store for those women who found love there?
1. Tunisian men are greedy for open beauty, because they are not spoiled by the local ones. Women of this country cover up their appearance and grooms are given the opportunity to get acquainted with the bride’s appearance in detail only after the wedding.
2. Real stories Tunisian wives who wish to end their marriage are rather unsuccessful and the most pressing issue is their common children. The fact is that divorce in the Tunisian mentality is a shame, and men are ready for the most reckless actions when finding themselves in this situation. At the same time in big cities civil marriages- quite normal practice today.
3. If you meet a Tunisian here, he will most likely show a freer character than is accepted in his country. This is due to the fact that young men themselves are tired of the strict rules of their country. But upon arrival, they return to the norms of their homeland.
Morocco
A country where our tourists are treated favorably, but unobtrusively, which can be found in Turkey and Egypt. If you follow the rules, you can have a great time here, but getting married is a different story.
1. Covered clothing, modest behavior, caution in everything that concerns strangers are the main rules for a Moroccan woman. Any manifestations of femininity - hairstyles, cosmetics, looser outfits - are allowed only in relation to the husband.
2. A Muslim woman has much more advantages in her rights to children during a divorce. But in fact, a man has more opportunities to keep his children. The best guarantee will be any opportunity to stay with your husband a good relationship even after divorce.
3. Today, Morocco is in a transitional stage towards expanding women's rights. Therefore, a lot depends on your personal behavior and desire to assert your needs. However, in any case, it is better to look for a way to reach an agreement peacefully.
United Arab Emirates
This country is in short term has transformed from a desert area into a rich and modern paradise on earth. There is a great risk of wanting to stay here forever, especially since the dream of a prince easily turns into a dream of a rich sheikh.
1. The law allows a man to officially have four wives. Few can provide them, but this does not diminish the desire of Arab man bring a girl into the house in the hope that she will eventually come to terms with her illegal situation.
2. Real stories testify to jealousy towards our wife that is unhealthy for our relationship.
3. Physical violence against women is punishable by law. Therefore, it is possible to cope with assault, although it is not entirely compatible with family life.
Egypt
Tourist Egypt is familiar and understandable to us. Russian women are known in Egypt; in this state there are enough examples of successful marriages between Russian women and local men.
1. The main mistake of girls who move to men in Egypt is refusal of property claims. Practice shows that Egyptian husbands are not at all against property insurance. This provides protection to the woman in case of difficulties in the future.
2. If you change religion, getting married in Egypt is quite simple. But such a marriage in Russia will be invalid.
3. In tourist areas you can afford more than if you live after the wedding, for example, in Cairo or other remote places.
Look documentary series“Oriental Wives” on the Domashny website.
