How to put a hickey on your neck? Time to learn
Another sensitive topic is how to put a hickey on the neck. It’s a strange thing - some people do it completely by accident, some learn this business on purpose, and sometimes you even come across “experts” who, with the help of such an unusual kiss, “draw” very real pictures. But we still wouldn’t recommend getting carried away with hickeys, no matter where you decide to place them.
Firstly, this is not entirely ethical. Well, tell me, how would you personally feel with a bright bruise on your neck when you come to work or study? Most likely, you would not even risk appearing there in this form, or you would be frantically looking for methods to get rid of this “beauty”. Your partner would feel exactly the same way, as it would be unpleasant for him to catch mocking glances from the outside.
The second disadvantage is that you cause a hematoma to the person. Of course, in comparison with severe bruises, it is relatively harmless, but this is a rupture of capillaries, i.e. violation of tissue integrity. At this time, the place where the “crimson mark” is left is especially vulnerable - the possibility of penetration of microorganisms appears. Therefore, if there is some kind of inflammatory process in the oral cavity (yours, your partner’s), it is even possible to develop purulent inflammation.
What is this - a manifestation of feelings or a mark?
How to put a hickey on your neck? The question is, of course, interesting. But wouldn't it be better to first find out what it can mean in modern society? For some, this is just fun, but psychologists put forward three theories, talking about the way feelings are expressed, about a kind of mark, as well as about the intention to “beat off” a partner if he is busy.
1. Label. It is placed, as you guessed it, on purpose. This is a way to tell a potential rival () that the owner (possessor) of such a sign cannot belong to anyone else except the one who put it. This is understandable and quite acceptable, if you don’t think about how to then hide these hickeys from prying eyes.
But in some cases it happens differently. A guy can give a girl a hickey to show that she is promiscuous and easily accessible. This is nothing more than a desire to humiliate your partner and make her a laughing stock. The perception of such a mark depends on the environment in which the girl is located. In general, in modern society they look at such signs completely calmly. Of course, it’s unlikely to do without sidelong glances and meaningful smiles, but in general those around you will take it calmly. But in some rural outback, where strict morals are still preserved, such a mark will be gossiped about in every alley, supplementing the details of its appearance with such details that even its owner herself is not aware of...
2. Sometimes hickeys are created intentionally, in the hope that the rival will see this sign, cause a scandal, and the couple will eventually break up. Here I would like to remember the cartoon about little devil No. 13, who tried to do minor dirty tricks. Do you remember how his pranks ended? Everything turned out the other way around. Therefore, if you decide to quarrel between a young man (girl) and your significant other, think about how such a dirty trick will affect you personally. Is it even worth doing this?
3. Showing feelings. It also happens that a partner does not even suspect what traces he can leave in a fit of passion. But this will not make the discomfort from what you see in the morning any less and, most likely, you will have to hide the traces of the night’s pleasures under a scarf or bandage, or look for another method of getting rid of bright bruises.
Victim attitude
Before leaving any marks on your partner’s body, ask if she (he) wants this? After all, everyone has their own attitude towards such games. Some believe that this is extreme disrespect, and the resulting marks are a cry of vulgarity. Others agree that a hickey is just a sign of passion. Still others even find it pleasant to wear such marks, because for them it looks like a statement: “Don’t come closer, I don’t belong to you!” And some people generally get incredible pleasure not only from the presence of a bruise, but also from the mere thought that it is about to appear and they are completely indifferent to how others will react to it later.
If you know for sure that your partner will not mind the “mark” you left, you can act, but if you are not sure that in the end there will be no quarrel about this, then it is better to ask first, and only then leave traces of your ardent passion.
Practice
1. There is no need to dig into the neck of your loved one suddenly; it is better to seize the right moment. Start with regular kisses and work your way up to French kissing. Don't forget that your loved one also reacts quite passionately to touch. Let him/her get really hot. It would not hurt for you to reach such a state - you intend to leave a trace of passion, don’t you?
Kiss lips, ears, neck... Do it hotly, passionately. Only get down to business when your partner gets excited. Now is the time to whisper: “I want to leave a memory of myself... Do you mind?” Probably, saying directly that you decided to get a hickey would not be entirely correct. And the word itself doesn’t sound very sexy.
1. A quick hickey can be created by grabbing the skin not only with your lips, but also with your teeth. In this case, there is no need to bite at all, as many people think. Moreover, you don’t need to do this at all!
2. Grab the most comfortable area of skin on your neck with your lips. Pull the skin in, thus creating a vacuum. Holding the skin with your teeth (clench them, but just a little, just so that the captured area does not slip out), continue to retract the skin, sucking intensively. If you want to add sensation to your partner, use your tongue a little more. Don't forget that your lips should still be pleasurable.
3. With all these manipulations, the “lucky” person to whom you decided to leave your “confession” on his neck should be relaxed. If he (she) gets tense, it will be difficult to make a hickey, and it won’t turn out the way you would like.
4. It is important to understand that there is no need to leave marks in the most visible place, because your partner will have to constantly hide this mark from prying eyes. Moreover, taught by bitter experience, he will no longer agree to such an experiment. Do not place the mark in the middle of the neck. Do this, for example, on the collarbone (it will not be visible under a T-shirt or blouse), or on the back (you can cover it with hair)
5. All “pleasure” should last no more than half a minute. With longer and more intense action, you can kiss until the skin simply bursts. So games are games, but caution doesn't hurt.
Should I refuse?
The meaning of the saying will change depending on where you place the point. If you are reading this article, it means you are still thinking. Perhaps some of those who just recently thought about how to put a hickey on their neck have abandoned their dubious idea. We do not set you up against the “marks of passion”, nor do we promote such a non-standard form of entertainment. We just ask you to think carefully about whether it’s worth doing this at all, because hiding a bright purple spot for a week or even two will not be easy, and this act can cause so much noise that you did not expect. It's up to you to decide. And your partner.
