How to calm a baby when. How to calm a newborn baby. What to do if the baby cries all the time. If the child is hungry

For a child who does not yet speak, crying is the only way to tell his parents about his needs and worries. Even experienced mothers and fathers who already have two or more children sometimes do not know how to calm a newborn when he cries, because children are not alike. Try to maintain composure and try different methods - you will definitely find the one that suits your baby perfectly.

Why is it so important to manage your feelings? Even before birth, the child has established an emotional connection with you and is sensitive to the mother’s condition. You can’t worry and be horrified or show dissatisfaction - the problem is only misunderstanding, and sooner or later it will disappear. Give yourself the word to approach your child in a positive state of mind, because he is counting on you so much. You will see: the more you communicate, the less frequent, quieter and shorter the attacks of bad mood will be.

A newborn never screams unnecessarily. Crying cannot be ignored! It is not good for the lungs or “character building” - it weakens the nervous system of the baby, who begins to doubt the friendliness of this world. A dangerous consequence of a long, heart-rending cry is an umbilical hernia.

Food, environment and related issues

Not all children easily adapt to external conditions. For the initial adaptation of the immature digestive and nervous system, three months must pass after birth. The most common time of “bad mood” during the day is from 16 to 20 hours. Let's take a closer look at the different causes of anxiety.

Hunger and feeding

How to calm a newborn if you don’t know the reasons yet? Logic will help. For example: if you have a relatively established feeding schedule, you can guess when your baby wants to eat and when she’s just calling for you. If, while you were feeding him, he ate a little and then woke up earlier than usual, he is hungry and needs more. An observation diary will help you record such moments: at what time and how the child cries, what pacifies him.

Breastfeeding is a great way to calm your baby, but he may tear himself away from his food and scream loudly.

What's happening	What to do
Difficulty breathing (stuffy nose)	Clean your nose using children's irrigation drops and a pharmacy bulb (squeeze before inserting into the nose)
If the crying does not recur, the child has simply swallowed a lot. If it continues, there may be inflammation in the ear (otitis), which may be accompanied by active movements of the head, attempts by the child to scratch the ears and head around them, redness of the nose, discharge from the ear, or inflammation in the mouth (thrush, stomatitis)	For otitis media, place special drops in the ears and children's vasoconstrictor drops in the nose. For inflammation in the oral cavity, treat with a cotton swab dipped in a 2% soda solution. Show your child to the doctor
Teeth cutting	Lightly “scratch” the swollen gums with a finger wrapped in a clean bandage (or a cooled piece of cucumber or apple). Give a chilled teething ring. Use an antipruritic pain reliever. For fever (above 38.5°C), give antipyretic for children
Don't like the taste	Particles of rancid milk may remain on the nipple. Breast treatment products smell “foreign” and are unpleasant for the baby, so you just need to rinse your breasts with boiled water before feeding. Avoid foods with strong tastes or odors
Crying after eating with legs pulled towards stomach	Air enters the tummy along with food (this can be seen by loud smacking during feeding). After eating, place your baby in an upright position and rock him up and down to remove excess air.

To calm your newborn baby, you don't have to feed him right away - try rocking him for a while. He will either console himself and fall asleep, or show that he really wants to eat (for example, he will begin to actively suck his fists).

By rocking, we mean a slight rocking of a small amplitude, and not “hooting” down, as some grandmothers like to do. Also, do not shake the baby - this is dangerous for his health and even life. Due to the proportionally large head and incompletely formed blood vessels and nerves, all this is fraught with serious problems with the nervous system and vision and can even cost life.

To make sure that the baby is getting enough food, weigh him regularly, monitor his weight gain and, if necessary and recommended by the pediatrician, increase the amount of feeding. When feeding an adapted milk formula, crying occurs from thirst, so you should have a bottle of drinking water with you.

Colic and bowel movements

The word “colic” does not come from the word “stab”, but from the Greek “pain in the colon” (“colikos”), that is, pain in the digestive system due to accumulated gases. This usually happens after the last feeding, late in the evening. Here are a few signs that can help you recognize colic in babies:

shrill, intermittent screams;
red face;
clenching fists;
pressing the legs to the stomach followed by sharp straightening;
swollen, “hard” belly.

Intestinal spasms associated with gas formation occur at 3-4 months of life, more often in boys than in girls, and, as a rule, in first-born children. Intestinal colic can occur in a baby if its mother is anxious or has eaten something wrong.

You can calm a baby with colic in this way:

place a diaper or bag filled with flaxseed on your stomach (ironed with a hot iron);
hold the baby upright, carry it a little until it burps;
With a warm hand, stroke the tummy clockwise, from the navel, gradually increasing the circles, then place the baby on the stomach;
“frog”: feet connected, knees bent to the sides (facilitates the passage of gases and feces);
“bicycle”: taking the legs of a lying baby, make circular movements with them in the air;
thigh massage;
after feeding - dill water or a pharmaceutical remedy for colic.

Parents talk about another unusual method: if you put your child in a sling or simply put his tummy on your stomach, then skin-to-skin contact - the same as immediately after childbirth - improves the baby’s mood and well-being.

A child may cry when urinating, and if this happens systematically against a background of elevated temperature, this is an inflammation of the bladder, and it’s time to call a doctor.

Crying during bowel movements can be caused by formula feeding. Try to help a little by lubricating the pointed end of the thermometer with vegetable oil, inserting it into the newborn's anus and moving it back and forth. The baby will certainly feel better.

Discomfort

It is important for your baby to know that he is cared for and will be provided with excellent living conditions. Sometimes it is enough to hold him in your arms to calm him down, and talk to him peacefully, looking into his eyes affectionately and confidently (eye contact is important). But how to calm a crying baby if he simply does not like the environment and his own feelings?

What to do	The nature of crying	What's happening
Wet diaper or diaper	Whimpering, turning into crying, hiccups and fidgeting (trying to move away from the wet spot), even after you have already picked up the baby	Change the diaper (diaper), cover the baby with a blanket
Something is bothering you about the diaper or clothing	Crying immediately after swaddling or changing clothes	Check whether the child is swaddled comfortably, whether there are crumbs or threads in the clothes, whether the fastener is in the way, and whether the clothes are tight. Maybe it is made of artificial fabric that causes allergies and itching? If yes, carefully change/change clothes
Uncomfortable position	Whimpering, waving arms and legs trying to roll over	Turn the newborn over, give him a different position
Uncomfortable temperature: hot and red / cold and pale skin on the stomach, back, chest, arms, legs, nose, possible rashes	Crying with sobs and hiccups	Change baby's clothes

If nothing helps to console your child, and you notice obvious changes in his appearance or behavior within 2-3 days, he is most likely sick. Take his temperature and show it to the doctor. If the screams are monotonous and monotonous, and during breaks the baby looks lethargic, if the fontanel on his head swells even in a calm state, a doctor should be called immediately.

Psychological characteristics

Often the baby screams just to call you. The crying call is usually short-lived and repeated after pauses. After shouting a little, your child waits for a reaction. If no one approaches, the “signal” sounds again and again there is a pause. Each time the volume of the call increases, but as soon as it realizes that they are coming to it, the baby quiets down.

Talk to your child more often, take him in your arms: perhaps he is upset because he is lonely and wants communication.

Crying protest is easy to recognize: it appears immediately when you do something obviously “unpleasant” - changing clothes, cleaning your nose or ears. Since you can't stop doing this, when you're done, cuddle your baby or do something else that usually makes him happy.

Excited children scream for a long time, with angry intonations. How to calm a child so that his peculiarity does not become torture for himself and for the whole family?

Create a friendly atmosphere: as few visitors as possible, a quiet room, quiet conversations, dim lighting, measured and smooth actions during daily care.
Give me a pacifier.
Try swaddling your baby tightly so that he does not frighten himself with chaotic movements of his legs and arms.
Hug and rock the baby more (you can listen to soft music or a song performed by you).

One of the main reasons for inconsolable roaring is ordinary fatigue. Staying awake for a long time (especially among a large number of familiar or not so familiar people), a day rich in events - all this leads to nervous tension. Please note: if a child cries at the end of every waking period, he is probably very tired. “Letting it run wild” is not the best idea: instead of getting tired and sleeping, as adults do, the child cannot sleep due to overexcitation.

What to do to calm your child before bed:

stop playing games, don’t entertain, don’t communicate too intensely;
ventilate the room (ideally, humidify the air in it);
rock in your arms or in a stroller (you can walk rhythmically and hum);
put in the crib and give a pacifier.

A “ritual” (the same sequence of actions) preceding sleep helps a lot. For example: feeding - bathing in a warm bath - laying down - turning on the night light and a lullaby - sleep.

If all irritating factors are eliminated, the child is healthy, but cries for no particular reason - perhaps he is tired or his fragile nervous system is simply making itself felt. But what to do if you need to calm your child quickly?

Harvey Karp's technique and other methods

In the first three months of life, children really need conditions that would remind them of life before birth, in the womb. Tightness, measured shaking, the sounds of the mother's body - create these conditions for babies, and they will gain a feeling of comfort at the level of instinct. This condition is called the “fourth trimester of pregnancy.”

Babies from birth to three months are the most difficult to soothe. Experienced pediatricians and child psychologists know this well. One of them, American doctor of medicine Harvey Karp, wrote the book “The Happiest Baby on the Block,” where he outlined his five-step method of “turning off” a child’s crying.

Here are five of Harvey Karp's techniques that he's been teaching parents for 20 years. True, the doctor himself emphasizes that the techniques have been used for centuries, and he simply generalized this experience.

Swaddle tightly. Handles along the body. “Stiffness”, similar to that which the child felt back in the womb, with which he could even fall asleep, will return him a sense of security.
Create "white noise". Most newborns fall asleep well to the steady noise of a household appliance or water. “White noise” is an imitation of the sounds of the mother’s body. You can “make noise” yourself: leaning towards the child’s ear, say “ch-ch-ch” and “sh-sh-sh” - no less loudly than he screams.
Lay it down. Children should sleep on their back, but they can be calmed down by lying on their stomach or side, slightly face down. You can put the baby with his tummy on his hand (dads do this especially successfully).
Get motion sick. Place the baby in your arms, head on your palms, face down, and rock. The rocking should be quite fast, unsharp, with a small amplitude. Let the baby feel a “shaking” similar to what he felt when his mother walked during pregnancy - this will help him relax.
Feed. This is one of the most effective ways. And if the newborn is lying on his stomach, put a finger or pacifier in his mouth (the sucking reflex must be satisfied). If the nipple spits out, you need to pull it a little, as if taking it away - the child will try to catch it.

These methods help calm your baby down in 5 minutes. Let us remind you once again that they are suitable for infants up to three months. To calm an older child, you will need to distract him. The following methods are suitable for this.

Sling. Here from Dr. Karp's list - swaddling, measured shaking when walking, and “white noise” (for example, street noise). And, of course, maximum closeness to mom.
Switching attention. After three months, the baby can fixate on bright colors and clear sounds that interest and distract him.
Dancing together. Smooth movements, a quiet purr of a simple melody, a smile and conversation can work wonders. Then briefly give the breast (bottle, pacifier).

A child's natural need is to be close to you and tell you about all his problems. How to calm a baby? Don't stop him from screaming - sometimes he just needs to "relieve the tension", but not alone. Let him “express what’s painful” to get rid of negative emotions, but at the same time, do not deprive him of your care and quickly do everything possible to restore the baby’s feeling of happiness. Crying gives you new ways to understand your baby's needs and show your love for him.

A baby’s crying is always associated with key stimuli and needs, so among the main reasons for crying are the following:

hunger;
thirst;
desire to attract attention;
pain;
discomfort;
fear;
overwork;
hypothermia;
overheat.

At the first stages, the mother is not yet able to determine by the nature of the crying what exactly the little child needs. However, during the process of habituation, different types of crying become recognizable, since the intonation, volume and duration in each case differ from each other.

Video - How to calm your baby

Most often, a child cries because he is hungry, in pain, or afraid. In such situations, the newborn cries most loudly, invitingly and heartbreakingly. Characteristic signs will help you recognize which of the listed reasons is bothering your baby at a given moment.

Hunger crying is often very loud, prolonged and intense. Over time, the little one begins to seem to choke. In such a situation, the child will begin to intuitively search for the breast immediately after he finds himself in his mother’s arms.
Crying caused by pain is very pitiful and somewhat desperate. However, if the child feels sharp and sudden pain, then the screams will be loud and the crying will be loud.
Crying from fear, as a rule, has notes of hysteria. It starts abruptly and ends abruptly. In such a situation, it is very important to quickly calm the child down and not wait until he calms down on his own. This helps create additional trust between the baby and mommy.

Often the baby cries when it is cold or overheated. In this case, it is very simple to determine the cause, since the skin is either very hot or supercooled. Mom can easily determine this by touch.

Sometimes the baby cries from fatigue and then you should not try to entertain him with rattles and funny faces. The baby just wants to sleep.

Reasons for crying in your sleep

Sometimes a child starts crying out of the blue in his sleep. Experts are sure that this is always due to one of the following reasons:

hunger;
horrible dream;
uncomfortable posture;
pain;
desire for mother's attention.

Basic ways to calm a crying baby

Regardless of the nature of the crying and its causes, there are several universal ways that will help a young mother calm her baby.

Method 1

One of the most common methods is swaddling. You should not confuse diapers with straitjackets, because, unlike this “form of clothing,” diapers warm the baby and allow him to take a comfortable position. In addition, wrapped in diapers, the baby again remembers his mother’s womb, where he spent so much time. The most important question to be resolved in such a situation is how tightly to swaddle the toddler. Experts recommend tightening the diapers quite tightly, but the child should not be completely constrained in his movements.

Method 2

Another option is to place the baby on your lap along your legs. Most often, the baby settles comfortably in a warm and comfortable cavity.

Method 3

One of the most powerful instincts in infants is the instinct to suck. Knowing this fact allows you to quickly calm your baby. As soon as your baby starts crying, give him a pacifier. In a matter of minutes, the baby should calm down. Experts conducted a study, the results of which showed: a pacifier can protect against sudden infant death syndrome, which horrifies all mothers without exception.

Method 4

This method is associated with sounds, since some babies very often need unobtrusive noise. The fact is that, being in the mother’s tummy, the baby is accustomed to hearing different sounds: from the physiological processes occurring in the woman’s body to the noise that surrounded her in real life. If you create a similar atmosphere for your toddler, he will feel like he is in a familiar environment and will quickly calm down.

You can turn on pleasant, calm music or TV - this is not of key importance. The main thing is to adjust the volume correctly so that the baby is comfortable. You can remember what you watched or listened to while you were pregnant to recreate those times as much as possible for your baby.

Method 5

This is one of the simplest and most popular methods that has been helping young mothers for many years. Taking a crying child in your arms, you need to quietly and soulfully pronounce the sound “shhhh”. Gentle intonation and soothing noise will help the child calm down. According to the pediatrician, you need to “shush” loudly enough. Otherwise, the baby simply will not hear you because of his crying.

Method 6

You can calm your child down with a simple conversation. If the baby is worried and crying, then start saying some nice words to him, looking into his eyes. In this way, you can let your baby know that you are nearby and can protect him from any troubles. The little one should feel supported and cared for, so it is better to accompany any action with a conversation.

Method 7

It is very important to provide the baby with movement. The fact is that while in the mother’s womb, the child gets used to constantly moving, because there the baby swims or jumps along with the mother’s movements. You can try to recreate the same environment, as it helps the baby calm down and fall asleep faster.

You can try rocking your baby in your arms or using auxiliary objects, such as a lounge chair or cradle. If they are not there, then the chair with the baby can be placed on any vibrating surface. But it is very important not to leave the child unattended, as this can be dangerous.

Method 8

With her own hands, a mother can relieve any pain. Infants especially need parental touch. To calm your child, you can give him a light massage:

undress the toddler and place him on his back;
stroke the baby’s legs and arms with slow movements, linger on the tummy;
turn the baby over on his stomach and massage his back with circular movements;
don’t forget to say kind words or sing your favorite melody quietly.

Such actions will distract the baby and quickly calm him down.

Method 9

In most cases, babies cry due to colic in the tummy. They are caused by bottle feeding, since in the process the baby inadvertently swallows air, which puts pressure on the baby’s stomach. In order to avoid such unpleasant situations, it is recommended to purchase an anti-colic bottle, which was invented specifically for these purposes. The creators of the anti-colic bottle made sure that a vacuum did not form in it. As a result, the baby may not tear himself away from the container.

Let's return to the issue of colic. Because a small child cries, he swallows even more air, which aggravates the pain. Consequently, there will be more gas, which means more crying. It is necessary, if not to prevent air from entering, then at least to help get rid of it. Most often this is done through regurgitation. To do this you need to do the following:

gently slap on the back;
hold it in a “column” at the shoulder.

Method 12

However, the reason for crying may be external discomfort, not internal. The first step is to check the baby's diaper, and then see if the baby is overheated (or overcooled). To do this, you should feel the baby's arms, legs, neck and nose. If everything is in order, then you should give the baby water - maybe he is just thirsty.

It makes sense to put different clothes on the little one or change the lighting in the room. One of these actions will help eliminate the baby's dissatisfaction.

Method 13

The main thing is to distract the child from crying. To do this, you can use absolutely any methods - rustle, call, sing, shake rattles, turn on melodies on your mobile phone. The baby should notice something that will attract his attention.

Method 14

Towards evening, the likelihood of colic in a baby increases, especially in those who are breastfed. The reason for this is the constant change in the composition of milk: in the evening the concentration of fats and hormones changes. There is an old grandfather's method - dill water, which is given to the baby during meals. You can also purchase a special product in pharmacies.

It is necessary to understand that in a situation where none of the above methods help, there is nothing left but contacting a pediatrician. The doctor must make sure that the baby’s health is not in danger.

Be healthy!

Video - How to calm a crying baby

The baby is crying. His face is red and swollen, tears are pouring from his eyes... A picture familiar to every parent. But what to do in such a situation? How to calm a child?

Below are the 5 most common cases of baby crying and a number of effective and simple ways to quickly comfort your baby during his tantrum. This is especially important when the baby bursts into tears on the street, in a clinic or in another public place.

Case 1: hysteria

Let's immediately define the concepts.

Hysteria is a picture of loud crying, the purpose of which is to attract attention. That is, the hysteria is designed for the presence of the viewer. At the same time, the baby feels fine, nothing hurts, he is well-fed and healthy, but he wanted to be naughty. Tantrums usually occur when a toddler tries to beg something from a parent (sweets, a toy) or when a child tries to manipulate an adult.

Hysteria is accompanied by:

arching the back;
involuntary sudden movements;
throwing your head back.

Trying to influence a child with persuasion and stern words in this case is useless.

3 ways to calm a hysterical child

Prevent!
Tantrums don't happen in a vacuum. Until the moment when the baby falls to the floor and rolls up his legs, bursting into tears, a number of events will happen. For example, a child may beg for a toy and only after several refusals become hysterical. Don't let this happen. Distract your baby. Show him something interesting so that he stops being capricious.
Ignore.
If the hysteria has already begun, the best thing to do is not to pay attention. Pretend that you are interested in something else. Hysteria requires a spectator, but if there is none, then it gradually subsides. In addition, the baby, seeing that you have found something interesting, will stop crying and show curiosity.
Prepare in advance.
Try to understand what causes tantrums. Is your baby missing toys? Does he like sweets too much? Or did you just spoil him very much? Whatever the reason, try to eradicate it. Tell your child how much you love him more often, praise him for his achievements, play and engage with him. Show that there are many interesting things in the world besides sweets and toys.

Case 2: whims

Whims can happen for different reasons, so you should first find out the reason. If it lies not in the child’s poor health, but in more harmless things, you can begin to act.

6 ways to calm a fussy child

Method one: ignore it

Do not enter into an argument with your child, proving that he is wrong. Moreover, do not scold the baby, do not reproach him for bad behavior. It’s better to pretend that you’re busy, or even better, switch the baby’s attention to something else.

“Oh, look! The bird has flown!”
“Look how big the car is!”
“See, that cloud seems to look like a dog!”

Use any tricks to distract the baby from whims and crying and become interested in something else.

Method two: compromise

Don't rush to calm your baby right away. Requests like “don’t cry!” and “calm down!” They will only provoke the little one even more, and the whim can develop into hysteria. It’s better to ask your baby to cry more quietly. For example, so as not to wake up the neighbors or not to interfere with dad’s work. By doing this, you give the baby permission to cry, and permitted things are no longer as interesting as forbidden things.

Method three: talk!

Speak! A lot, quickly and energetically. At the same time, do not pay attention to the child’s whims, as if he is not crying at all, but listens to you carefully all the time. Surprisingly, little children really quickly become silent and begin to listen.

Method four: laughter from whims

Try to make your baby laugh. Tickle him, sing a perky song or play with a toy, changing your voice funny.

You can come up with a special ritual. For example, blow on your baby's face to supposedly dry her tears.

Method five: pills for whims

This trick is suitable for children over 3 years old. As soon as the baby begins to sulk and cry, offer her a “tasty pill.” Its role can be candy, marmalade or another child’s favorite treat. But warn that if the “pill” does not work, you will not offer such treatment again.

Method six: love

The most powerful weapon against children's tears is, of course, love. Hug your baby, hold him to your chest and sincerely tell him how much you love him. Love your child and remember to show it in both verbal and non-verbal ways.

Case 3: pain

Is your baby teething, does his tummy hurt, or did he fall and scrape his knee? No matter what triggered the painful sensations, the child is unlikely to be able to cope with them like an adult and, most likely, will cry. You need to console him, but at this time you should act very delicately.

3 ways to comfort your baby during pain

Do not swear!
Never ever! – do not express your irritation and anger in front of a child who is in pain. Now the baby is vulnerable and defenseless. He needs your help, support and love. If you lash out at him or swear, then at best you will drive the baby into hysterics. In the worst case, such an attitude is fraught with psychological problems for the child in the future.
Press your hands onto the sore spot.
It's no secret that a person can heal with his hands. It’s not for nothing that when something hurts, we unconsciously touch that place with our fingers or the whole palm.
Pat your baby on the sore spot, saying kind words. Imagine that your palm is emitting strong healing energy, and the child’s pain will subside.
Caress.
In mother's arms, any pain recedes very quickly, and grievances are forgotten. Do not skimp on tenderness, kiss the baby and talk to him. Tell him that he is the best, tell him a story, sing a song. Simple human communication is often more effective than cunning psychological techniques.

The baby is crying from colic: what to do?

Warm the diaper on the radiator and place it on the baby’s tummy.
Hold the baby close to you and carry him in your arms.
Pour warm water into the baby's bath and bathe the baby - the spasms weaken in the warmth.
Fennel tea and chamomile help with colic, but it is better to consult a doctor before consuming herbs.

Case 4: before bed

Many babies start crying before going to bed and at night. There can be many reasons for this:

the baby is overexcited and does not want to sleep;
the baby, on the contrary, is too tired;
the room is too hot and stuffy;
the child is afraid to be alone at night.

You never know what alarmed the baby. The main thing is to figure out how to calm him down.

4 ways to calm your baby before bed

Atmosphere
Create an atmosphere of comfort and peace in your children's bedroom. Turn on some nice music, ventilate the room, buy a night light. By the way, a night light is a very important detail in the interior of a children’s room. It not only creates a pleasant twilight, but also calms the child, letting him know that he is safe.
Before bed ritual
To avoid whims and set your baby up for sleep, come up with a ritual. This could be an evening story, a warm bath with herbs, a glass of milk with honey - one or all of them. A child, having gotten used to the fact that after this or that action he needs to go to bed, will no longer resist and cry.
be patient
Let your baby sleep peacefully. Don't rush him, don't rush to leave and leave the baby alone in a dark room. Hold his hand until he falls asleep, or lie in the same bed with him. Let the baby feel protected.
Saving light
Leave the door to the children's room ajar so that the baby can see the light pouring from the corridor and hear the voices of the parents. This calms children and helps them fall asleep quickly at night.

Case 5: hyperactivity

Hyperactive children are not uncommon these days. Often, out of despair, parents go to doctors and ask them for advice on how to calm a hyperactive child. Unfortunately, pediatricians most often prescribe medications. These can be light tranquilizers - Fezam, Tazepam and others. Of course, you shouldn’t give such drugs to children, but what to do when the baby starts noisy games and no less noisy tantrums?

It is better to approach the problem from a psychological point of view. Use the games and techniques below.

5 ways to calm a hyperactive child

Baby remote control
Take an old TV remote and play a game with your baby. As soon as your child starts making noise, pretend to turn down the volume. The baby must follow the command.
Napkin
Explain to your child the essence of the game: you throw a napkin, and while it falls, the baby is free to do whatever he wants - scream, laugh, run, but as soon as the napkin touches the floor, the child will have to shut up and be quiet.
Whale
Invite your child to play whale. He will be a whale that slowly sinks under water (in this case, the water is, of course, imaginary), swims slowly, slowly searches for something “at the bottom.”
Silent games
Give your child a task - let him put together a puzzle, trace the dotted pictures, and color the coloring book. Any game that requires concentration and patience will do. Of course, promise a reward.
Repetition
The essence of the game: the child must repeat all movements and actions after you. Start with loud games and sudden movements, but gradually slow down the pace. A child repeating after you will also gradually calm down.

How to calm a newborn?

The crying of a baby is a separate issue. As a rule, tantrums in children under one year old have no psychological basis and are associated solely with the baby’s inability to talk about his needs in a different way. But how to calm a crying child under the age of one year? Luckily, it's pretty easy.

"White noise"
Monotonous hissing sounds remind babies of the sound of blood flowing in the mother's womb. This is why most children in the first months of life quickly fall asleep to the sound of flowing water (for example, a waterfall), the noise of an untuned radio and the hissing of their parents.
Motion sickness
This method is also suitable for children from birth to 6-7 months. Rocking calms and relaxes the baby, bringing back memories of intrauterine life.
Embrace
Often it is enough to simply hug the baby tightly and whisper a few tender, comforting words to calm the child down.
Sucking
Infants relax best at their mother's breast; artificial babies may be offered an alternative - a pacifier.
Breath
An older child can be asked to “breathe through his nose.” At the same time, the mother herself needs to set an example and take a few deep breaths. The thing is that small children are terrible repeaters, and your child will probably immediately calm down and begin to repeat after you.

Conclusion

Although there are many tips on how to calm a baby when he cries, the best way is love. Don't be angry and forgive the baby for all his whims. And remember that if the baby is too spoiled, it is most of your fault.

A newborn baby always uses crying to express his emotions and worries. But no mother can listen to her baby's cries for long. Therefore, it is important for every woman to know how to calm her newborn.

It should be remembered that you cannot ignore the crying of a newborn, because this can cause the appearance of an umbilical hernia and weaken the baby’s nervous system.

Main reasons for crying

Hysteria and crying never arise out of nowhere. The following reasons may contribute to this:

The baby is hungry or thirsty.
The newborn does not have enough attention, so he attracts it by crying.
The child may be experiencing discomfort or pain.
A newborn may often experience fear because he is not yet accustomed to extrauterine life.
Perhaps the baby is overtired and just wants to sleep.
When the baby is too cold or hot.

How to determine the cause of crying

If the cause is eliminated, the child will calm down. But how can you determine what exactly is bothering your baby?

How to calm a baby if the reason for crying is colic?

If the reason for crying is colic, then the following actions will help eliminate hysteria:

Crying while feeding

Child, drinking mother's milk, may abruptly refuse the breast and start crying. What are the reasons for such crying and how to eliminate them?

Crying in a dream

The baby may start crying and hysterics not only while he is awake, but also when he is sleeping. What are the reasons for his concern?

Universal ways to calm a newborn

To calm a child, you must first find out the cause and eliminate it. But if the reason for the hysteria is still unclear, then there are several universal ways How to calm a child during a tantrum.

How to calm down with massage

If all of the above methods didn’t help, then mother’s kind and gentle hands can help. How to calm a child during a tantrum with a soothing massage?

During the massage, sing a song or tell your newborn how much you love him. Such actions will distract the baby from hysteria and help quickly eliminate it.

All of the above methods will help eliminate the cause crying and calm the baby.

From hunger.
The child tells you with his long cry that he wants to eat. At the same time, he may blush and most often pulls his hands.

In this case, of course, the baby needs to be fed, despite the fact that it is still very early.

2. Newborn in wet diapers, in a wet diaper.
The baby wants to tell you that he has already peed in a diaper or diaper (even if it is reusable), and now he is wet and uncomfortable. They irritate the delicate skin of a newborn. And it doesn’t matter for him whether it’s day or night, it’s uncomfortable in the wet in any case. In this case, he seems to whine, now stronger, now weaker, and whines continuously. He may also develop hiccups.

How to calm a newborn: Just change his diaper or diaper, and if he’s feeling a little cold, cover him with a blanket.

3. The child is uncomfortable in a diaper or clothing.
He may cry because the folds of an incorrectly swaddled diaper are pressing on him or because some small thing (a button, a string, a pebble, etc.) has gotten into the diaper or clothes. Or maybe he's just tired of lying in one position and wants to roll over. This type of crying starts with whimpers, and then he starts screaming, waving his arms and legs, trying to change position.

How to calm a newborn: Unwrap the newborn and swaddle him again, more carefully, so that there are fewer folds. Or first try turning it over to a different position.

4. The child is hot:

From the heat, the baby whines, the skin turns slightly red, and a rash (prickly heat) may also appear. He tries to free himself from diapers or clothes. You can measure the temperature, it can rise to 37.5 degrees due to overheating.

How to calm a newborn: On hot days, try not to put reusable diapers on your child, use thin diapers and caps (you can not wear a cap in hot weather)

5. The newborn is cold.
If the baby is cold, he may cry piercingly, and then the crying becomes quieter and longer, and hiccups appear.

How to calm a newborn: The baby needs to be dressed a little warmer. The cool skin of the abdomen, chest and back will tell you that the baby is cold.

6. Newborn cries while feeding
During feeding, he may cry due to the inflammatory process in his oral mucosa. Or because of inflammation of the middle ear. With otitis media, it hurts the child when swallowing, so even if he is hungry and greedily clutches your chest, after the first swallow he will tear away and start crying loudly. In this case, the baby’s cry is very loud and shrill. He can throw his head back a little. With otitis media, crying can occur not only during feeding, but at any time, even at night.
Even during feeding, he may cry when his nose is clogged and it is simply difficult for him to breathe. Especially if the baby has a runny nose.

How to calm a newborn: For all three reasons, you should, of course, call a doctor. And from a clogged nose, you can suck out the snot and continue feeding.

7. Newborn cries after feeding.
It is quite possible that food got into his tummy and air, this happens often. And now his tummy hurts. In this case, the child bends his legs to his tummy, his forehead frowns and cries pitifully.

How to calm a newborn: First, check whether you are applying your baby to the breast correctly. Does it capture the nipple's areola? or just the nipple? The baby should not smack too loudly when sucking. Secondly, after feeding, do not forget to carry him in a “column” (in an upright position) until he burps or just min. 15-20.

8. A newborn cries from intestinal colic.
You will immediately recognize this cry; it will be very piercing and there may be breaks between the screams. He seems to be asking you for help, saying that he is in pain. Boys suffer from colic more often than girls. And first-born children experience colic more often than subsequent children. Children of anxious mothers can also experience colic. There are many reasons for colic in the abdomen: these are still immature internal systems of the child, and allergies, or maybe the mother ate something inappropriate for the baby. And a large number of gas bubbles accumulate in the child’s tummy. These gases put pressure on the intestinal wall, and it hurts the baby.

How to calm a newborn: First, try to warm the baby a little, put his tummy to your stomach, or you can warm the tummy with a heating pad folded several times and ironed with a hot iron. You can also give dill water or activated charcoal to drink after feeding. There are also special children's medications that can be bought at the pharmacy; we take Bebicalm.

9. The child has diaper rash on the skin
This is skin irritation due to a late diaper change or due to putting the diaper on wet skin.

Deal with it quite simple: we use Bepanten ointment (not a cream, but an ointment!)

10. Baby cries when he pees.
If this happens systematically, it means that the baby may have an inflammatory process in the bladder. If this is accompanied by an elevated temperature, better call a doctor.

11. Constipation in a newborn baby - or the baby cries when pooping.
To avoid constipation in a newborn, it is better for a mother to breastfeed her baby rather than formula feed. If it is not possible to breastfeed, then let the child drink water throughout the day. Constipation can be dealt with slightly irritating the baby's anus. To do this, lubricate the sharp tip of the thermometer with sunflower oil and insert it into the anus, about 1 cm. And move it forward and backward a little. After this, the baby may fart or poop. In any case, he will feel better and calm down.
Crying during bowel movements occurs due to the baby's irritated anus. To avoid this, wash it more often, after each time you urinate and after pooping.

12. The baby is tired.
Little children get tired too. When tired, the baby not only whines, but also loses interest in his surroundings. He would like to rest, sleep for a while, but they cannot always fall asleep on their own. He needs a little help. Rock him in your arms, maybe sing a song, or you can give him a bath before bed, or you can also take him outside to sleep.

13. The baby is teething
Some children experience the appearance of teeth very painfully and cause discomfort. Look after the child. Is his mouth watering? Does he bite his fingers or something else? Maybe he refuses to breastfeed because of pain in his gums? The baby may also have no appetite and sleep patterns may be disrupted.

How to calm a newborn: Wash your hands thoroughly and massage your baby's gums gently. You can give it a cold ring to chew. You can smear your gums with a special ointment. Sold in pharmacies.

14. The baby wants to chat.
A child, just like an adult, has a desire to communicate or not to communicate. To be alone or not to be alone. Therefore, if there are no obvious reasons for the child to cry, but he cries despite this, just try to pick him up and chat with him a little. sing a song or just talk or look at him.

15. The newborn does not want to sleep.
If it's time to put your baby to bed, and he is capricious and seems to crawl out of the diaper, then he is not yet ready to go to bed. Unwaddle him, let him walk a little.

16. A newborn cries for no reason.
This does not necessarily indicate that he is ill; most likely, he simply has an easily excitable nervous system. You need to go for walks with such children more often, and don’t turn on loud music or TV indoors. And remove bright lights and loud rattle toys.